Not Invited...

Yup! We ended up uninviting both of my husbands grandmothers to the minimony because they jointly did some shady, unforgiving things to us. We don't regret that decision at all, in fact he doesn't even talk to them anymore because of their behavior. It wasn't one thing that they did they continuously did hurtful things and we just got tired of it. Of course they wanted to play victim afterwards but we were already over it by that time.

My paternal grandmother and her sister. Very rude and racist, and insult my parents. I hung up the phone on her and said "please stop talking trash on my parents " and blocked her. Byeeee.

I am not totally against a small wedding with my loving family and besties, but I decided to be less dramatic and go with intimate wedding, because I do not want see dh’s mom in person, not to mention in my wedding. I even dreamt seeing her at my ceremony and have the feeling dh invited her. I dropped my bouquet to the ground and left the ceremony immediately. The wedding is of and I was furious. She did so many horrible things to me and my kids (mostly verbal) and I drew the line, cut her off.

My mom's father and step-mom weren't invited. He had a falling out with my mom shortly after we got engaged. We went back and forth about whether we wanted to invite them, but ultimately decided not to. Even if we had, he probably wouldn't have attended as he has decided we are no longer his family.

View Quoted Comment Wow, omg sorry to hear that. Their loss!

View Quoted Comment Exactly! Less drama!

View Quoted Comment Woah, sorry to hear that. That is super disappointing when elders do shady things.

View Quoted Comment Omg, sorry to hear that! Does your hubby still have a relationship with his mom?

View Quoted Comment That's too bad, Veronica. Sorry to hear that.

View Quoted Comment He went from mommas’ boy to a a husband I need him to be, after 21 years he finally realized I had enough. She was very toxic to me and my family. She made him so insecure and created a very possessive and very controlling person by. Just exactly like her. Fortunately dh chose me when I applied for a divorce couple years ago. It’s me or his mom. I gave my best to be ignorant and strong but enough is enough. All bad stuff she said about me and my entire family behind my back while I tried hard to love and respect her, hell I am not having it anymore. All those saying like “You let your wife wear short and tank top, she will get raped” and so many more toxic influences, but the top was when she verbally abused my kids, hell she is lucky I didn’t call the cps or police to drag her out from my house. My dh can have relationship with her, I don’t care. But don’t every call her on the phone in front of me, or let her come to my house. All my family and friends knows I am a very quite and soft, and forgiving person, but when my dh begged me back I moved back in and I smashed all picture frames with her in it and I ripped all pictures of her. He finally saw how much rage I have in me towards her. I never hate anyone that much. Never in my whole 41 years of life. I mean her own siblings are avoiding her. So evil, so racist, so judgmental, so critical, so controlling, etc. I hope dh is now wise enough to filter what she says to him. I don’t need negativity. Life is hard enough. I choose who I want in my life. Not her. Not now, not ever. Basta! Done. Finish. Fertig. Finito. Sorry for the rant 🤣

I was trying to figure out a way to not invite a lady from work but still invite everyone else. Nice lady but everything she does just annoys me. I’ve tried several times to change my attitude but she can be as dumb as a bag of rocks when it comes to our jobs. Always fixing mistakes, re-educating over & over got extremely old. She gave her 2 week notice so my issue was resolved.

My FH’s grandmother isn’t invited because she’s been extremely abusive to his father since childhood and is all around an awful person, other than that I’m not inviting anyone from my family that I haven’t spoken to in over a year, which my grandmother was upset about because “they’re family”, but she’s not paying for the wedding and we wanted to keep it small

View Quoted Comment Oh nice! Good for you, a classic saved by the bell.

View Quoted Comment Oh no sorry to hear that. On the other hand, good for you for standing your ground.

My father's family. We aren't close at all, for good reason. (Dad didn't even want them there.)

So. Nope. Not invited.

I loathe the idea that you *have* to invite people. No. You invite those you feel comfortable with, who support you.

Honestly wish I hadn't wasted invitations on my mother's family, either...

I'm not inviting my dad despite everyone telling me I'll regret it in the future.

It took me a while to come to that decision, but he moved to another country and only communicates with me through facebook messenger maybe 3 times a year. His only reply to me graduating college was: "Congrats on this great achievement". He didn't send a card, or offered to come see me. The same thing happened when I got engaged. He's been very distant and hasn't replied to me about whether or not he wants to come to the wedding (I sent that message in August...).

It sucks because I love my dad and he was awesome when I was growing up, but now I don't know who he is anymore, and wish I could have both of my parents there on my wedding day.

View Quoted Comment I know the feeling. My dad behaves in a similar way but he lives just 20 mins away from me. He won't be invited. Neither will be any of our siblings.

Actually for me it was the opposite! i wanted to invite my husband's uncles but for some reason his parents didn't want that. i thought it was weird i mean 1] they're on our phone plan and work for them so i was like oh ok.... ahah i thought that was weird but then again i don't know their family dynamic.

I'm not inviting my father's two sisters and my cousin. My father's two sisters cause constant drama, and one of them has a severely disabled son, my cousin. At the last family event we were all at, he tried to tip over the coffin of a family member and it caused all kinds of problems. He is violent and they have spoiled and indulged him so much that he is completely undisciplined . With a number of frail elderly people there, as well as children, it seems unsafe for all involved. I have the family's blessing not to invite them, and they already stated they wouldn't come.

I am also not inviting my dad's best friend. This IS causing a bit of drama, as both his kids are getting married and they have both invited my dad to their weddings. However, I don't particularly like this guy, and I know my dad will spend the entire wedding hanging out with him, instead of focused on the wedding and the rest of the family. So I'm standing strong. Helps that I"m paying for the wedding myself!

View Quoted Comment Oh my goodness that is insane. Good for you for standing your ground.