No kid wedding

What are your worries for kids under 2? Your worries may not be the same as another's so reasons for an age limit may not be universally known or understood by your guests, ie. expect a fight. I had zero children as attendants and guests.

View Quoted Comment I just don’t really want to be in the middle of saying my vows or me and my daddy walking down and have a child having a meltdown and screaming and crying and the parent not taking them out and for the reception there is gonna be alcohol there and I don’t want parents to say anything about it etc.

I think it is easiest to go all or nothing…That is, allow all kids or none at all. I think it is much easier to go the no kids option, but that really depends solely on what kind of “vibe” you are wanting to achieve. Good luck!

I agree with Peyton, all or nothing is the best route.

I also agree with Peyton. Trying to make any exceptions will just stir up a hornets nest of hard feelings. And honestly, sometimes it's not the age of the child that is the problem, but the parenting style instead. (Trust me, after many many trips to Disney World, we have found this to be 100% truth) 😁

I agree with everyone above. We’re fortunate that we come from small families where we only have one nuclear family member under 2, and he will be our ring bearer as he’s my FH and my godson in addition to being my FH’s nephew.


We have a ton of friends with kids, and we just made a blanket statement saying it’s an adult only event, my grandmothers are the flower girls, and our nephew will only be staying for the ceremony before having a babysitter come get him.
Good luck!

I don't think I've ever attended an all or no children wedding. In my circles immediate family children, ie children, nieces, nephews, perhaps any younger first cousins are typically the only kids invited. Very occasionally someone will invite extended family children, but literally never the children of all their friends, too. By relationship is an entirely etiquette appropriate place to make cut offs, BTW, just as for adults.

Flower girls or ring bearers should not be thought of as necessary or as props, but as already invited child guests with a role in the wedding. If there is no guest who fits that description then don't have them. I would not invite a child exclusively for the purpose of being in the wedding or discriminate between kids in the same family.

Sometimes people won't be able to attend without their children due to child care issues. As far as cut offs by age, that is also entirely etiquette acceptable. Again, that can sometimes be logistically problematic for people when they are traveling with older children in the same family, for example, or when there is a nursing baby.

Three and four year olds can sometimes be as bad as two year olds. I'm a 2025 bride as well, and we are going with a fully child-free wedding. No one under 13.