No Bachelorette Party

Is this a multi-day destination bachelorette that you're planning? Those can be trickier. Either way, honestly you shouldn't be planning this, have a look at the next thread down from this. The problem with planning a party in honour of yourself is that it can impinge on other people's needs. Some people don't want to spend their vacation days and money on things like bachelorettes. At this point, if you persist, it runs the risk of coming across like a demand.

Instead what you could do is offer to take everyone out for a night. Don't call it a bachelorette, just a night out for your closest people. Or a night in, and order pizza and have drinks.

The friends who told you this is not something you should be organizing in your own honor are totally correct. The rule of thumb is that if other people don't offer to plan or host something or the logistics don't work out, then it doesn't happen. These things are optional and they are also voluntary. It's not a good look for you to be the one driving this, which your bridesmaids have already tried to tell you. Take the hint.

My MOH can't be trusted to plan anything, including what she'll wear from day to day. LOL! I took myself to the spa because when I asked if she wanted to get together, my treat, to go to the spa, she said she'd ge back to me with a day/time so I could get something booked. She didn't & after a month I reached out & She said the same thing. So, I took myself, chatted up the women working there, & had a really good time. I was really relaxed & MOH hasn't said a word about it. Since I didn't' have to pay for her, I upgraded & added services for myself.

Essentially, your wedding is the party you throw for yourselves. Your bach or wedding shower are the optional parties others throw for you. I know it's hard to give up control, but how else are other people going to learn how to plan events, if you don't let them do it? Should they ask, suggest a one-day event (maybe with a post bkfst), so you can easily and economically fly in/ out during a weekend. Are any bands or concerts scheduled in their city for which you can go together? Do keep in mind many people take personal vacations during August so they may have other plans.

I don't think you should have to plan your own bachelorette party. My cousin's planned my bachelorette party/ get away for the month of APRIL. I haven't spoken to them in a while. When the month of October passed, I just figured it wasn't going to be one.