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Elizabeth
Dedicated August 2021

Need to Vent!

Elizabeth, on February 1, 2021 at 4:01 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7
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Bridesmaid drama! I've already gotten good advice, but I just really need to vent about this.



I have 2 friends from high school that I felt obligated to ask to be in the wedding party, and I thought they'd really step up for me. My other 3 bridesmaid get along great and have been meeting virtually to plan the bachelorette weekend. These 2 highschool friends have not been involved at all, and even made scheduling dress try-ons a nightmare. Now today, they are messaging me about how they are upset at the final cost of the bachelorette weekend (which they have not been a part of planning) and that they "refuse to buy dresses online" (which is essentially the only option I have). I've basically gotten nothing but hostility form them today about things that are out of my control! I'm so sick of this drama! Thanks for letting me vent.
On a positive note, my other bridesmaids are amazing and I love them dearly!

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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I feel like it’s kind of wrong for them to vent to you about the cost of the bachelorette weekend. I mean if they are part of the ones planning the event that they should’ve been clear about what their budget was and I feel like venting it towards you just adds more stress to you. If they are not able to afford paying for all of the scheduled activities then maybe they can sit out on some. It just sounds like overall these two in particular are a little bit more difficult
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  • Katie
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    Katie ·
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    The only thing I can say is you kind of got to be selective choosing bridesmaids and not choose because you feel obligated. I did the same thing and quickly regret it. I have 3 amazing bridesmaids I chose my mom my niece and my brothers girlfriend who done so much for my fiance and I and I absolutely love her and we hang out all the time. I am absolutely happy to have them 3. However I have 2 others I regret. The one doesn't want to be bothered at all with the wedding and the other is try everything she can to out stage me at my wedding and make everything about her. It can be very annoying but at least I have the 3 to cheer me up and put the other 2 in check.
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  • mrswinteriscoming
    VIP December 2021
    mrswinteriscoming ·
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    As much as being a bridesmaid (or MOH) ‘only’ involves wearing the dress chosen and being there on the day to support the bride, there is almost always more to it. It can often be quite time consuming and sometimes even expensive to be a bridesmaid.

    It sounds to me like your high school friends loved the idea of being bridesmaids but now that reality has sunk in, realise it is more commitment than they ever wanted. If it were me, I would talk to them (individually) and express your feelings and explain to them that if it is to much for them, you are happy for them to step down if they feel the need to do so.

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  • Tory
    Devoted May 2022
    Tory ·
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    Agreed!!! It’s not your fault that the bachelorette party is expensive, especially if they weren’t involved in the planning whatsoever!
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  • Michelle
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    Michelle ·
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    Lesson learned- don’t ask out of obligation. They should have been more involved in the planning on both the party & the dress. Maybe ask/tell them if they don’t want to participate, they don’t have to but to let you know so you can plan accordingly.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    Oh no. Asking someone to be involved out of obligation is not a good idea
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  • Expert September 2021
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    Coming from someone who just had to remove someone (who they asked out of obligation) from their wedding party for something very similar, it's not worth the drama!

    Call me a drama queen, but being a bride during COVID can be tough and a lot of times you can get pushed to the back burner - because you know, there's a pandemic. I don't think your bridesmaids should be adding to that stress at all. And they absolutely shouldn't have come to you with those issues about the Bach.

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