My fiance and I have been engaged for 3 years. We are 27 years old and have been together for 9 years.
My mother has been diagnosed as a narcissist by my psychologist and she constantly tries to control and manipulate me. She hates my fiance because I am a doctor and he works in an adminstrative job with a normal salary.
My parents were extremely upset when we became engaged and both caused a scene at our engagement party and ruined our night.
After trying to discuss wedding plans for the last 3 years, with my parents constantly telling us to either elope or have a registry wedding (despite my parents being rich, owning 3 houses, going on multiple overseas trips each year and having a big wedding themselves) they never offerred to contribute, despite our many discussions.
My fiance and I saved, purchased a house 2 years ago and decided to have our wedding in June 2021. As my fiance's parents can't afford to contribute and mine don't want to, we have decided to have a small destination wedding in Italy with our closest friends and family, instead of our dream wedding in Australia with all our friends and family.
Having told my parents of our plans, they screamed at me for 2 hours, insulted my fiance and said they will contribute to a wedding in a home town in Australia if I let my mother make every decision and barely invite any of my finaces family. My mum even banned me from speaking to my mother in law
Am I crazy for not wanting to take my family's money and get married in Australia? I know they are only offering the money so they can tell other people that they did offer to contribute so we could get married in Aus, or so they can just control my wedding and continue to try to break up myself and my finace. Either way, they are manipulating me so that I seem like the bad person...
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