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Super December 2021

My ring & salty reaction

Casey, on November 1, 2019 at 7:22 PM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 37
So, I have anxiety and can be awkward sometimes. As a result, when I first got engaged and got my ring back from the jewelers, when people would congratulate me or bring up the engagement, I didn't often show off my ring even though I love it! I just get too shy and awkward lol. Unless people specifically asked to see it, I never offered to show it.

I knew here would be the perfect place to show it off with other people getting married who are excited and enjoy sharing! At one point there was a perfect thread for me to show it off with this story but I couldn't find the related image and now that I finally found the photo again I cannot find that thread lol! The thread was about negative reactions to your rings. 😔😞

The story I wanted to share was that, despite my awkwardness, I was very excited the day I got my ring back from the jewelers and I actually showed it off a little. I shared 2 pictures and said I was happy it was back from the jewelers on FB. Then, 2 days later I'm scrolling and saw my cousins girlfriend had shared a status the day before (so, the VERY NEXT DAY after I showed my ring) which I have included.
I know it probably sounds stupid and people may be thinking "that might not even be about/related to you" but the coincidental timing was suspicious to me. Even if it wasn't about me, it still felt like a mildly rude thing to post after seeing my ring, the exact style she's born insulting and insinuating is only wanted by ladies who are gold diggers, apparently (🙄😒)
Again, probably seems stupid, but at the time it really upset me and made me angry because of the insinuation it held. It was like she was insulting my character as a person! Not that she knew this (or that it matters because it doesn't, people can spend their money how they like!) But the ring is a family heirloom, the only thing we paid for was a new setting. I just don't care for the solitaire look, personally. I can find them beautiful but they aren't my probabl preference. It has nothing to do with cost. Also, it was a bit funny because my best friend pointed out that the ring in the shared photo was a HONKING diamond if real and good cut/quality and could easily cost way more than a "bulky" setting like mine.

Anyway, that's my little vent! And my little show off of my ring, because I really do love it! I picked the band myself after he proposed so it was perfect! He got to totally surprise me, it has a family history, and I got to customize it. It couldn't be more perfect for me and I love it so, so much!
Share your story and/or rings! 😊

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Latest activity by Casey, on November 7, 2019 at 8:38 PM
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    Super February 2020
    Andrea ·
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    Don't listen to the haters. They are so negative because they are jealous. Plus, why will she announce this on fb, is she hoping that you see it? I don't understand why she would want to create any drama when she's honestly a nobody to you...

    Your ring is beautiful, and the only important thing is that you love it!

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  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
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    Your ring is gorgeous! My ring is kind of bulky too but I didn’t pick it. I love it though.

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  • Kristin
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    Your ring is gorgeous and so is the solitaire. The comments come straight out of jealousy. Unfortunately, your cousin seems to not be able to be content with what she has. That’s sad.
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  • Latoya
    Devoted February 2020
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    That is just ignorant comment! Dainty does not equal expensive for her information! Lmao Someone can buy a really dainty band with a nice big diamond and it cost more! 🙄 She made herself look stupid with that one! Do not let her bother you bc your ring is gorgeous! Females will always hate and make their sneak remarks and it is simply due to jealousy. For that post tons of photos of your ring so she can watch as they circulate through her timeline! LoL
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    Super December 2021
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    Thank you so much! That is true- it only matters if I love it! I think she is one of those types who always has drama/creates drama so that wouldn't surprise me if it was the reason. I agree with the jealousy, too. I didn't mention it in the story but she has been dating my cousin for roughly the same amount of time me and my fiance have been dating, and have changed their Facebook relationship status to married and call each other husband and wife, but are not actually married. So, I could definitely see jealous being a factor.
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  • Crystal
    Devoted October 2020
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    But i don’t think you ring looks bulky.

    and she probably is jealous. Especially if she isn’t engaged or is engaged with a smaller ring.
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    Casey ·
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    Omg I LOVE your setting!!! I actually went in with that design in mind, but because the center stone is raised slightly above the others, I went with the setting I have now. The jeweler warned me that if I'm clumsy this may not be the best setting for me as I could accidentally knock my center stone out of the setting. 😅
    I have definitely knocked my ring into things quite a few times, so it was all for the best lol!! But I still adore that setting, your ring is gorgeous! 😍
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    Thank you! I agree that the solitaire can be beautiful, it's just not my personal taste. I would never want to put down anyone else's style or ring! She's my cousin's girlfriend, and that shared image is from one of the pages she follows on Facebook, not her ring. Only clarifying in case that was unclear. I mentioned in a comment above that it definitely could be jealousy.. She and my cousin have been together roughly the same amount of time as me and my fiance and refer to each other as married and have their Facebook status as married, but are not actually married.
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    Lol!! I like your style!! 🤣🤣
    That is exactly what my best friend said! It's so true, that solitary ring in the picture could easily be more expensive than my ring! And thank you! I love my ring!
    I agree and it's so sad, why can't we just be happy for each other and friendly?? I love that old saying " the only reason you should look in your neighbor's bowl is to make sure they have enough" or something along those lines, I'm paraphrasing a bit.
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    Casey ·
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    Thank you! I didn't think so either, but I guess it still bothered me anyway. I definitely think everyone is right about the jealousy, as I mentioned in to post above, she and my cousin have been together roughly the same time as us and claim to be married but aren't. I don't know if they have any rings so that could also play into it, if she doesn't have a ring..
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  • Mrs. S
    Master November 2019
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    Thanks! I haven’t knocked it out yet although when I get my warranty checks they usually tell me one or two of the smaller stones are loose
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  • Latoya
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    I can’t stand a liar or a hater! Do you boo and don’t mind the salty females!
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    At the end of the day no one else matters except you and your FH. And she sounds incredibly jealous of you and your ring. It's not even your fault that your cousin hasn't popped the question to her! And they're already calling each other husband and wife? She sounds like she's forcing the issue, so now maybe he may feel like he doesn't need to propose cause they're there or he's scared of going into marriage? I don't know, I'm trying to find justification in a jealous woman's childish post...

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  • P & J
    Dedicated February 2020
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    Your ring is beautiful my goodness !! 😍 I have a bulky one also and I love that I can discreetly show it off because of its size lol modesty is nice as well but it’s to each their own! Don’t pay any attention to your cousins gf, she doesn’t even have a ring to compare
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  • Erica
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    That is highly suspicious timing but she's probably just jealous if anything. And I would definitely not describe your ring as bulky so who knows if she was even referring to you at all.

    Personally I think your ring is beautiful (I might be partial since it's very similar to mine 😉). My center stone was also an heirloom and my FH designed the ring himself. I love it!

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  • Andrea
    Super May 2020
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    Your ring is gorgeous. That girl is just jealous and saying dumb stuff like some people can’t help but do. She’s not important in your life, her opinion shouldn’t be either. Especially when her opinion is utter nonsense! Be proud you found the love of your life and have a gorgeous ring that symbolizes that love, not your bank account.
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    Your ring is beautiful, don’t let anyone make you feel any shame towards it. I get it though, I’ve had so many people make comments about mine. Like, “ dang, think it’s big enough”. It makes me feel like I have to explain, which I shouldn’t have too, that my mom gave us the main stone as contribution to our wedding as she knew she wouldn’t have funds to help. The diamond came out of the engagement ring from her fiancé that passed away. He was a great guy and I’m honored to have the diamond from their symbol of love.

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  • Chelsea
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    She’s definitely just jealous! People can be so rude! I’ve gotten a lot of really judgy comments about my ring also. At first they made me really self conscious, but after a while I got over it because I LOVE my ring. At the end of the day if you love your ring that’s all that matters! And your ring is gorgeous!!!
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  • Jennifer
    Super March 2020
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    Even if she hadn't seen your ring, that is rude. Judging someone's price point or ring style is disrespectful. I find it normal to not like ever ring setting I see, but to make comments about it is just disrespectful
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  • Bailey
    Dedicated July 2020
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    Ahhh it's so beautiful! Pay no mind to anyone who tells you any different!!! It's so special and gorgeous.

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