My little rant

I dont think its silly at all! my wedding isnt until may next year and may of this year i had my dj and photog contract done signed and depositied

Hi Christel!

It's nice to have Wedding Wire when you need to rant!! I know from experience. Wanting something nice for your wedding does NOT make you a bridezilla!! People who say stuff like that really have no idea what a true bridezilla is. They should watch the show, and rethink that. Also, it's not silly for you to be buying things and signing contracts. October is probably the most popular wedding month, so vendors fill up their available days quickly!! You're smart to start nailing down your vendors now, especially the major ones, like venue, catering, photography. Just try to ignore anyone who has nothing but negativity to say. You don't need that!! Come here, where we will support you, and listen to your rants!! Good luck, and happy planning!!

yea some people can just be super opinionated about things like that

Honey I had my venue & photographer booked 3 days after my engagement. It’s nothing wrong with planning ahead. We already booked our cake, DJ, Host, church, venue, photographer, hairstylist & makeup artist, barbers for the guys and already picked out Flowers. And I still have until July next year so by March/April I’m going to be relaxing. Plan how you want!

I found the best way to deal with that is to not involve family in planning. If you and your fiance are the only ones paying, you two are the only ones involved with planning & vendors & budget.

Hey date twin!!! Totally normal to want your wedding to be nice and book vendors early, before they book up!

Simple solution: Do You! Its YOUR day! Just let them talk. And if need be, stop involving them in any plans or details. Just tell them when and where to show up.

I’m so sorry girl, that has to be extremely frustrating! I am experiencing something similar. My parents are contributing financially to the wedding, so I feel obligated to listen to my mom’s input. Unfortunately, she thinks the cost of pretty much everything is “crazy” or “ridiculous”. I started to adopt the policy that she could contribute what she felt fair for each item, and I would pay the difference. But I am having similar feelings of her thinking I’m being lavish with the wedding- which I really am NOT. Now I’m pretty much agreeing with her suggestions of cheaper items, etc., letting her write a check to me for that amount, then just paying the remainder when I order what I actually wanted. LOL

Your wedding, your decision. If you are paying then it’s only your business. My family can be this way also and I feel that it only comes from a deep concern that I not overspend or put myself in debt for something they consider a bit trivial, but events are important to me and I’m sure your wedding day is beyond important to you! So even if your family is meaning well, it still is not up to them or really affects them in any way. Do you! Enjoy your planning and just lovingly tell them you appreciate their opinions and concern, but you are being wise about your planning and are doing things a certain way for certain reasons!

I started planning stuff the day after he proposed! It's really never to early, venues and vendors are snapped up fast, and dresses can sometimes take a really long time to get. i'm turning 50 this weekend, he's 54 and we have people thinking it's silly that we're having a wedding at our age. We found each other again after dating in 1985 and we want to make it special for US

I had my photographer booked the morning after I got engaged 🤷🏻‍♀️ Most of the venues I looked at didn’t have my desired date available that next week. October weddings are extremely popular and you can tell them if you don’t book now nothing will be left

October 2020, is not that far a. I tried to book a caterer over a year out and had to resort to my 4th choice. Which is a superb caterer just the most expensive. Also am paying for our entire wedding and since its my second and I’m older, though my fh first, I’ve been told this is silly and ridiculous to waste this kind of money. I never had a real wedding the first time so WHATEVER, I’m doing it the way we want it!

Rant Over!!

I’m booking for my October 2020 wedding now and caterers, DJs, DOCs are the vendors I don’t have yet and they are all getting booked up. A lot are no longer available. It drives me crazy when people shame me for planning more than a year out when the reality is I should have been booking vendors even earlier.

Honestly you’re timing is perfect. If you wait longer than prepare yourself for rejection. Avoid all the “sorry we are already booked for that day” stress. Good luck!

You are doing just fine! I had no idea how to wedding plan, but I've figured it out along the way! We started planning when the wedding felt a little far away, but no one made us feel like that! We got our first choice of every vendor! Choose anyone you want to work with, sign those contracts, and have the wedding you want! Nobody has commented on my wedding or knows what we are spending, but I also don't share that information freely. Keep everyone on an information diet and plan the wedding you want!

It's not silly believe me. I didn't start planning until we picked a date but we've been engaged since Christmas Eve 2017. We just picked a date this past late April. and then I went bonkers and decided to get a lot done! You're not a bridezilla (like... have you seen the show?!), it's your wedding and you should have it your way. Opinions will be the defeat of us all, just have to put your foot down and be strong! you got this!! plan in the order that makes sense for you! I ended up getting over half my planning down in 6 weeks, deposits and paid for and reservations at least booked. Keep your head up!!

It is definitely not too early. The same day our venue was available, I booked my HMUA and a week later my photographer. In my opinion, if they are not financing the item or contract, then it is up to you as to when you want or are able to purchase it. We are getting married 9/26/2020 and I had my HMUA booked in Aug. 2019 and photographer booked a few weeks ago! You are certainly not a bridezilla for wanting nice things and need to space out when things are purchased.

I agree with all the ladies... it would be silly to wait till the last minute. This is my second wedding and I want all the things I didn't have at my no frill city hall wedding the first time around. Regardless of my age, I have a few negative Nancy's in my family. The way I deal with them is by not giving any details...there's no point if they're just going to have a negative spin on everything. I find that almost everyone on WW is super supportive. Everyone is super eager to offer advice, or a similar experience. Don't listen to them, you're doing great. Also you'll be able to relax once you check off things on your list. Best of luck Christel!!

Brush them off. Its your day and they have no say lol.

As for timelines I don't think thats bad at all. We got engaged August 2018 and chose October 13th 2019 so 14 months. We booked our venue, photographer and DJ all at the year mark. By November they were all booked for 2019 and starting 2020 bookings.

Girl I've got most of my stuff booked and our date isn't until 1.2.21! We're paying for the wedding ourselves also and it's been super helpful to book early and have time to budget and pay everything off. I understand your frustrations, our friends and family keep complaining about how "far away" it is, but they aren't paying for it! Lol