Background
My 9yo daughter (from a previous relationship) will be standing up as a Junior Bridesmaid on the side of my future wife in our upcoming wedding. She is thrilled to be included in such an important role and is very excited. She has expressed that she would like to sit with the other bridesmaids at the reception, in particular, my future SIL whom she loves very much.
Conflict:My mother has expressed that she would like my daughter to sit at the table with her and my family (some of whom my daughter has never met previously). When informed that my daughter would like to sit with the other bridesmaids, my mother became very upset and would not pick up or return my calls. She has communicated via my father that my future wife’s family gets to see my daughter more often than she does and that she feels unimportant.
I am struggling bc while I do want my wedding to be a joyous occasion that both my mother and her granddaughter can celebrate together, I also want to make sure that my daughter feels included and important, and not like a little girl who has to parked with grandma.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated, as I feel I will need to disappoint one or the other, and that’s certainly not what I would like to be focused on on my wedding day.
Also, my future wife has had a bit of a rocky relationship with my mom (due primarily to my mom partially blaming her for not being able to see me or my daughter as much as she used to; I lived at home before moving in with my future wife), and my future wife thinks my moms behavior is ridiculous and has already made it clear that she will not be tolerating this kind of pettiness on our wedding day.
I’m stuck in the middle and would love some advice.
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