Mother of the groom dress

In my social circles the moms always wear something in the wedding colors, but most posters here will tell you the parents can wear whatever they want. Has she asked you for guidance about what to wear? I think it's fine to give suggestions if she specifically came to you, but otherwise she will probably not like the request. The same goes for your mom, which may be why she chose something else.

View Quoted Comment She’s asked me once which is when I told her shades of green. The same as I told my own mother. I feel like if she wears green now she wouldn’t look like she’s playing a part. She has asked her son if she could wear black and then had him come ask me. And I was sort of cringey about it but didn’t have a better suggestion so I feel like I can’t really say no.

View Quoted Comment I don't think there's anything wrong with wearing black at a wedding these days, as long as she doesn't wear a black veil like it's a funeral.


But if she asked you for some ideas, I recommend showing her this guide even if she doesn't plan to buy from David's Bridal:https://www.davidsbridal.com/Content_StyleandFashionGuide_styleguidemobcoordinator

I wouldn’t worry about it at all. Wearing black to weddings is SUPER common these days. Black is timeless and looks good on everybody

Whenever I see a mother of the groom wearing black the wedding, I think she's trying to convey a message... Especially if the relationship between her and the DIL has not been ideal in the past. So while I agree that wearing black has become common these days, this does not apply to the mothers. But ultimately, you cannot dictate what she wears. You may hint, she obviously understands that you don't want her to wear black because otherwise she wouldn't have sent her son to speak to you. What's hin opinion on this? I would let FH deal with this, you don't want a conflict with her shortly before the wedding.

Both my mom AND mother in law wore black dresses to our wedding. They looked so classy and gorgeous. I 100% recommend black for moms!

I am letting both my mom and my future MIL wear whatever they want. My future MIL already has her dress and it is absolutely adorable, my mom said she found a dress she liked but wanted to ask if the color was ok before she got it, to me its more important that they are both there than what they are wearing.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree! It’s a neutral and sophisticated color. And black is so slimming which is great for moms who want to look their best.

View Quoted Comment I completely agree! You can’t go wrong with black-it’s slimming and flattering on everyone. My mother wore black to my brother’s wedding, as did the bride’s mom, and they looked great! I actually requested my mom wear black to mine, but we ended up finding a dark navy dress that looks amazing on her, so we went with it instead.

In my first wedding my mom wore ivory. Other people had issue with it but I didn’t mind. This wedding I asked my mom to wear a shade of blue or we can figure out another color. I feel like as long as she is happy I am happy.

The moms aren't standing in the bridal party, they have no reason to be coordinated with your colors. Unless you're asking all guests to wear certain colors (which is a thing and can be really cool) then choosing your moms' dress colors seems over-bearing to me. I just feel like we have so many details of the wedding to worry about, why add this as a decision you have to make?

View Quoted Comment Totally agree. I think the main focus should be ensuring moms feel beautiful and confident in whatever they’re wearing.

My mom and his aunt (his parents are in heaven) pick out their outfits and colors they wanted to wear which was fine with me bc they felt beautiful and comfortable in what they were wearing. I have seen beautiful black dresses/gowns that are stunning. It’s a personal preference as to how you want your wedding to be.

She could still wear silver too. Just make sure the dresses are substantially different. She could also do a shade of silver - a gray. That would be pretty too. I'd try to avoid black because people make assumptions.

I'm only asking that my MIL, mom and step mom don't wear white. My mom already bought a dress but she sent me pics of colors and I said which one I prefer, which is what she ended up going with, but ultimately it was up to her.

She could wear silver too, something gray, that's not the same shade as your mom. Honestly, if you're planning on using lots of greenery she probably wouldn't look bad in a green dress. It would still match with what you're going for with your theme.

My colors are navy and rust orange and when my mom asked what colors the moms will be wearing I told her probably something in lighter shades of blue or blush.

My mom picked her own color, and my future MIL will also pick her own color. You can suggest things, but usually mothers get to pick what colors they want to wear. As for the black...my future MIL has worn black to 2 of her 3 daughters' weddings, not because she didn't like the groom or was trying to make a statement, but because it's what she felt most comfortable in. Black is classy and it matches nearly everything, so I don't see it as a bad omen or anything of the sort like some may. As long as they don't wear your color.