So long story. My FH is shorter than me. He is 5'5" and I am 5'10". We saw in a wedding blooper video that a short groom got on a stool when he went to kiss his wife. We loved that idea because we embrace our heights and our differences and our families always joke about it. In the video it was fun and helped the event not be so serious and since we are not very serious people we decided to do that too. To the point of the story we told our families about this idea a month ago no one said a word. Today while I was decorating the church (we are getting married Saturday) my fh's mom and grandma came to me at the church and told me that I was not being a good bride for doing this. They said they knew it was all my idea and that I was degrading and bullying him for his height. They told me that if we do the stool they will not be there. So through the tears I said we aren't going to do it and I never meant it to be a bad thing. It upset me so much like if they would have came up and said "hey we don't like this it's not appropriate for the event" sure I would have just said we won't do it. The words they said keep ringing in my ears. We have been together for 5 years surely they know me better than to think I meant bad with this. BTW my FH actually still wants to do it. He loved the idea of not being so serious and he didn't think anything bad about it. So I don't know it kills me that they came to me 2 days before while I was decorating and the happiest I have been in months and told me these hurtful things. Just venting I guess. Thanks for reading.