Modern or Traditional: Paying for the Wedding

Modern. FH and I split the cost of everything. His parents have passed away so my Mom is contributing the the Welcome Party/Rehearsal Dinner as a way to welcome his family into ours since they are coming all the way from Germany.

Modern. Everyone is chipping in.

Modern. My FH and I will split the cost of our venue (all inclusive) and my parents will be paying for additional vendors, invitations, my dress/accessories, and other miscellaneous items.

Modern, both families plus FH and I are paying. Each of our parents offered to pay for certain vendors, and FH and I are paying for everything else.

Modern. 95% FH & I, though our parents have offered small amounts (that we are very grateful for)! I wouldn't have it any other way. I have friends getting married whose families are footing the bill, but in return, they have to compromise on their vision & guest list. No thanks!

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Exact same here!

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That's so sweet!! I'm sorry to hear about his parents but I know his family will feel so loved and welcomed

Modern. FH and I are an older bride and groom, especially since this is our first (and only!) marriage. We both have very successful careers so I wouldn’t feel right taking all of that money from my mom. (She wouldn’t be able to afford it anyway.) FH and I are paying for about 80% and my mom is paying for the rest. So far, his parents have offered nothing.

We are paying for our wedding. We are only have a ceremony and then treating all of our guest to dinner. This is an out of state wedding. Since we are not having a rehearsal dinner, my future mother in law offered to put the money towards the dinner we are treating our guest to.

Traditional.

I am an only child, so my mother offered to pay for the majority of our wedding. We still paid for a lot of things, probably a few grand worth, but she was gracious enough to foot the bill. My in-laws do not have a lot of money, but they did pay for our rehearsal dinner.

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That's great and such a big help I'm sure!

Modern.

My FH and I are paying for everything ourselves.

Modern! My fiancé and I are paying for the wedding ourselves, but my parents did recently decided to pay for a portion. Which was so nice.

Modern. My partner and I are paying for the wedding and since we are moving to another country, my family is giving us things for the ceremony, instead of traditional gifts that we won't use.

For example, my mom paid for about 80% of my dress, my dad helped us with a percentage of the reception's booking fee, my older brother is paying for photography and sound (he has some friends that work in the business so he won't be really paying them) and my younger brother's partner is a professional chef and will be making the cake and desserts.

Modern. We'll be paying for most of it ourselves.

Mordern. We r paying for everything ourselves. Wouldn't have it any other way.

Mostly traditional but somewhat modern? We're paying for about 40% when it's all said and done. My parents are paying for most of the rest but FH's parents also pitched in! We are also paying for the RD.

It's difficult for me to understand why adults with jobs would expect their parents to pay for a party. My husband and I paid for the majority of things - my mom gifted us the cost of photography and his mom threw a welcome dinner. It was nice of both of them, but it wasn't something we counted on - we'd paid for the photography already, for example.

Modern we split it all!

Modern. We had help from both sets of parents and paid for the rest ourselves.