May brides and your plan of action?

My wedding is May 16th and we are also taking it day by day. We are both extremely close to our grandparents and the possibility of them not going does hurt us but we rather they be safe. 90% of my guest are all in town so we have yet to see any large amount of declined RSVP's. At the end of the day we just want to get married so we will be following through as long as we are permitted. I can't take the stress of rescheduling and re-planning our wedding. Good-luck to you both and I hope you find peace in your decision

Wedding is May 22nd 2020 just taking it day by day I’m not worrying really until April. I think everything is going to workout in the end.

Our wedding is May 23 and as of right now we are still planning on having it but we are definitely taking it day by day. We have only gotten about 15 RSVPs so far, all yes, but I understand the hesitation. Most of our guests are out of town including family so I’m not really sure what to do. I almost wish someone would make the decision for me!! I just don’t feel right asking people to come during a crisis like this, but can’t get myself to cancel just yet.

View Quoted Comment I’m in the same boat girl! We have about 44 RSVP’s who said yes out of a little over a hundred and we haven’t been getting anything since the outbreak which I totally understand! Part of me wants to elope but the other part wants the day to go on if it’s allowed 😔

Our date is May 13th and so far we're moving forward. As of yesterday we did have a decrease in guests, but we were already working with such a small crowd. Less than 15 ppl. As you said, its day by day. So far our vendors are still on board. Unless the state says otherwise, we're doing it lol. My final fitting for tomorrow was rescheduled for April 2nd. FH will also have to wait for his suit alterations, but its okay. We'll get through it whether we have to postpone or not! Positive vibes though!

View Quoted Comment I feel the same! Part of me wants to elope with just immediate family (and honestly save some money by doing that) but the other part of me wants the wedding we’ve worked so hard for. Even thinking about our grandparents not being there either way is killing us 😭 I just keep going back and fourth about it all, it’s so sad!!

May 23rd taking it day by day. April 15 is my deadline to make decison. At this point invites has been sent out from friday March 13th. Im remaining positve however prepared to postpone

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View Quoted Comment Yes they are willing to work with me with a new date or giving me my money back

I'm sorry to hear about your grandparents It's good that you are asking them to take their health into consideration first, though.

(May 23rd) We are, like everyone else, going day by day. Almost all of my guests are super optimistic and would probably attend regardless of CDC regulations (I would POSTPONE if we needed, I'm not trying to say that we'll do whatever we want even at a major health risk to everyone). Invitations get sent out next week. The whole planning has lost its fizzle thing... SUPER relatable. I can't even force myself to look at wedding stuff because I get so depressed. I've made myself take a break from Facebook and social media (since that's where a lot of the panic-news that isn't legit is being spread) and I'm focusing on the positives.

I gave myself the rest of the week off. This weekend was going to be my bachelorette party (my whole wedding party is scattered in the state, so we had to do an early one), but we had to cancel, so I'm letting myself have a weekend of just relaxing, playing video games, and doing whatever it takes to clear my mind. Next week, I will start planning again. I don't want to be caught behind if things clear up!

Wishing hope and encouragement for all you brides! If anyone wants to message me, I'm 100% down to talk out our wedding stresses more in depth and get to know y'all. We're in this thing together!

Our date is May 30th. I live in New Hampshire and work in Vermont. Currently in our state (and surrounding states) schools are closed (until April 6), bars and restaurants can only provide take-out or delivery options, and most local businesses are closed or otherwise seriously restricted for the next 2.5 weeks at this point. Many employers are encouraging employees to work from home if they can. There are very few cars on the road or people out and about. Currently gatherings of more than 25 people are restricted on the state level, and the CDC is recommending limiting events to 50 people or less until early May. Overnight, the number of confirmed Covid19 cases in our state doubled.

At this point we are in a wait-and-see pattern but I am coming to terms with the fact that our wedding is unlikely to go on as we originally planned. We're in our mid-30s and our parents are in their late 60s/early 70s. We were going to have a smaller wedding (60-80 guests), mostly local, with a handful of people traveling and a handful of older guests (my FH's aunts and uncles are similar age to our parents). Most of our guests are unlikely to be those that would be severely impacted, but I cannot imagine having a wedding without our parents present (I lost my dad in college and it would break my heart for my FH to have to go through having our wedding without his dad there) or putting them at risk, having to pick-and-choose from our guests to have a smaller event, or postponing by a few months in the hopes that things will be better and we can line up all the same vendors. We've already had stuff customized with our date and because we are older and wanting to try for a baby putting off our wedding by a year or even several months is not desirable. My MOH and mom are in New Jersey, so we can't even do something that is super local with our closest friends/family. Unless this is much more under control by then, I just don't see us winning this situation at all, but it's still too soon to tell. So far we are not reaching out to vendors and have only heard from our photographer (who is getting married May 16th, so she's in a similar boat and it's honestly the only comforting thing to know a real actual person in our area who is being impacted in the same way). We are just waiting and hoping.

View Quoted Comment Yes girl same here we’re taking it day by day and it doesn’t help to see so many other April/May brides have to cancel or postpone and we aren’t since we don’t want to make any rush decisions 😢 they are my fiancé’s grandparents but love them like my own and we are so devastated they cannot make it. Yes the fizzle and spark is not there and I almost want it to be here already for all of this stress to be done! Have you talked to your vendors yet?

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Yeah, I emailed all of them and I have responses from everyone but the videographer. In case we have to postpone, everyone is more than willing to move the date without charging us extra or cancellation fees. We don't have very many vendors, since a lot of it is DIY, so I don't think it would be impossible to find new dates... but even if we were to postpone, I have no idea when we'd postpone to. I'd want to do it in August, but that almost feels too soon... just ready to be married. My FH and I talked about doing a small ceremony and then doing a reception later, but we both agree that it just won't be the same. It's all just so crazy how fast it became a real possibility, you know?

My wedding was May 1st but we just postponed til May 1st 2021! We are very sad about it but feel it’s what’s best for everyone. our plan is to possibly get married at the court once this craziness settles down and then still have our dream wedding we’ve planned for and be able to celebrate with all our love ones!

May 19th in Vegas (we are in DE/MD so traveling) and postponed to July 16th. Chapel & hair/makeup vendor are switching dates for us and flights and hotels were no biggie to move around. I know there is a CHANCE that we would've been perfectly fine but we family that right now are on strict travel restrictions from their jobs and one that is immuno-compromised. Plus, switching now just gives me peace of mind but it was DEFINITELY a hard decision since I had my heart set on our original date.

At the end of the day, we're still getting married. Just giving ourselves a couple of extra months to make sure it's perfect.

We're May 9th (or a different day now in May). We had gotten a few RSVPs, but nothing the past week or so. In fact, FH already had relatives suggesting we postponed.
We talked about it yesterday, and decided we're just going to try and get married at the courthouse or by our officiant on our original day (or whenever we can after, if the Tri-State restrictions are in place still). Neither one of us really wants to re-plan the wedding. We'll have a smaller dinner with our local guests after things calm down. We're going to try and see if we can get a refund from our venue since it's not too close. Otherwise maybe we'll just have the meal there. I was optimistic until this weekend, when everything in NJ and NY started shutting down. I've been a longtime lurker here, but it's SSI helpful to have other brides that understand (and unfortunately are facing the same problem). I hope everyone gets their perfect wedding in the end, even if it's not what you originally planned

Finding this thread extremely helpful and would love to keep the conversation going as things progress. Our date is 5/23 in CT. Same story as you ladies...bridal shower next week (3/28) postponed, bachelorette party the last weekend of April likely off. We are just taking it day by day. But I can completely relate on the planning front. Things were starting to get busy (and exciting!) just before this all hit, and now it's just...well, you all know. We just don't know what to do. I too have grandmothers who if they didn't attend, it would break my heart. We don't want to put anyone in harm's way, but I feel like the decision is just too early to call. I keep asking myself if it's ignorant to think that we could still make this happen on 5/23, but we just have to go with the information we've been given at this time, which to us, is not enough. My fiance is way more clear-headed than I am in these situations, so we discussed at length last night...invitations will still go out next week, and we will likely include some sort of insert along the lines of "we hope to celebrate with you on 5/23, but just in case...etc. etc.) Sending you all lots of love and health in these coming weeks.

Hi guys! We are supposed to get married on May 16 in Maryland. Our
venue told us that as of right now, the venue is still going as is with
May weddings. For those getting married in March and April, they are
giving couples two options: to have the wedding but only up to 50 guests
(that includes vendors) or to postpone. We have not had to make that
decision yet but we were trying to come up with a plan b to still have
the legal ceremony on the same date and have the reception at a later
time. It looks like this will not be able to happen either because the
city has stopped issuing marriage licenses for the foreseeable future.
We already sent out invitations. I am not sure what to do.

It
is tough. I feel angry, disappointed, helpless, frustrated, selfish for
worrying about a wedding when there are people who are are worrying
about how they will keep a roof over their head and food on the table,
and a whole bunch of other emotions.

My wedding is May 16th and we are still planning on having it. For one reason is my Grandpa is 93 years old and if my fiance and I dont have it now as planned, I dont know if my Grandpa will be around when we do! My grandpa live 2 hours away from my fiance and I, so he's close where my parents can bring him. Now with that being said, i told my out of state family and friends if they choose not to come, no hard feelings and any of the local too! But, my fiance's family is all out of state, so not sure what they are going to do yet. My fiance is ok with it either way...he knows its important for my Grandpa to be there! I wish you and your fiance the best and congratulations.

View Quoted Comment My wedding is May 16th and we are still planning on having it. For one reason is my Grandpa is 93 years old and if my fiance and I dont have it now as planned, I dont know if my Grandpa will be around when we do! My grandpa live 2 hours away from my fiance and I, so he's close where my parents can bring him. Now with that being said, i told my out of state family and friends if they choose not to come, no hard feelings and any of the local too! But, my fiance's family is all out of state, so not sure what they are going to do yet. My fiance is ok with it either way...he knows its important for my Grandpa to be there! I wish you and your fiance the best and congratulations.