We got married almost 9 months ago, and it's been less than ideal for the both of us. I started feeling a disconnect between my husband and myself back in March, and asked him to consider counseling, both martial and individual, in April. I actively was involved with individual counseling a month prior to suggesting he see a counselor. Despite his agreement, he made no attempts to schedule a session. Things kept getting worse, despite me telling him time and time again the things that were bothering me, including unpaid bills which led to utilities being cut off, not pulling his weight financially, and the many false truths, exaggerated stories, white lies which he seems to persistently tell.
As I stated this has gone on for months....Due to our discovery of mold in our rental property we were ultimately forced to move in with my parents. We started looking into a house to buy, but it appears that his financial status and credit aren't exactly ideal, yet another example of information he failed to tell me.
I've had enough of feeling like I am not good enough to be his wife and him to keep his word. I sat him down and explained yet again all of the things that were bothering me, from the financials, to ignoring me and my feelings when I express my concerns, and the way he withholds information or doesn't tell me the truth. I also told him that if things in our marriage do not change, we will get divorced.
I guess it took a few days to sink in because a few days letter, I got a text message asking me if I was serious about divorce. I sent back yes, if things don't change that is where we are headed. He explained that he had scheduled an individual counseling session in a couple weeks, but wanted me to go with him so we can begin marriage counseling. Forgive me for not jumping for joy, but I have my reservations regarding this drastic change in his decision to get into marriage counseling. I am willing to go with him, and try to salvage our marriage. However I don't want to get played like a fool either.
My heart is already broken, and I am barely keeping the pieces together. This is the final attempt to try to save our marriage on my part because I can't take much more. I am tired of feeling like I am not good enough for him to honor the vows and promises he made to me before and on our wedding day.
If anyone has any advice on this I would greatly appreciate it.