Make up & hair getting ready time

I think it would a kind gesture to invite your FMIL to get her hair/makeup done with you! You could put her towards the end (or even last) on the hair and makeup schedule, and ask her to show up a half hour or so before her time slot. That way, she won't be there for the entire getting ready time, but she'll still feel included.

I agree with Lisa! I’m giving my getting ready ladies all an individual schedule on when to arrive that day, both so I can stagger arrival times and get more quality time with the people I’m closest to, and so there aren’t too many bodies in my room when HMUA still won’t touch them for another hour. I am having my FMIL arrive on the earlier side because FH’s daughter is one of my bridesmaids and loves to give attitude, so that way FMIL can “enjoy” her granddaughter so I don’t have to. 😂

There is no "supposed to." You could get ready at the venue, a hotel room, at home or at a salon, with or without your bridal party. Contrary to popular belief, the bridal party is not obligated to do hair and makeup with you. They can DIY, or go to their own stylist/MUA as long as they are on time to help you get ready and for photos. But if you're inviting your bridal party and your mom I think it would be a nice gesture to include FMIL. Some people include any grandmothers as well.

View Quoted Comment I understand. I would like to include my sister and my cousin, then my mom and aunt to get a quick makeup touch up but frankly my FMIL maybe unconsciously makes everything not enjoyable especially when she’s around more people. I think is a nervous problem I don’t know. I already went through it when picking my wedding dress and I don’t want the same thing to happen again with her demands and authority. Maybe I can get ready with her for the rehearsal dinner to make her feel more included.

View Quoted Comment Getting ready for rehearsal really isn’t a thing so I don’t see how that will make her feel any more included. In fact, it may make it even more obvious. But you’re the only one who can judge if it’s worth the invitation in the long run.

Yeah I agree with CM to no on the rehearsal dinner getting ready. I mean how much “getting ready” are you doing? I think it makes it way obvious. I included my MIL and she ended up leaving after getting her hair and makeup done because something family related came up and then she came back. But I understand you have a different relationship with yours. I agree with Lisa that it might be nice to include her and you can ask her to come at a later time from everyone else so she’s not there the entire time but it’s really up to you

My future mother in law is not invited during hair/makeup time. She can come in after I’m dressed/hair and makeup are complete. She’s not necessarily micro managing but says rude side comments about my FH. I’m the only one getting my hair and makeup done professionally. I did offer the girls for me to either pay for their hair or makeup to be done but they don’t like people doing their hair or makeup so I’m the only one doing it. The girls will get ready with me. My FMIL is not arriving until 12 and the ceremony begins at 1. She is arriving with her neighbors.

View Quoted Comment Exactly, I don’t see why I will be leaving her out if I don’t invite her. She’s done enough, and I want to be stress-free that day. People here should start considering what’s best for them and not for others because as long as you ensure all the guests are taken care of, and you’re not being rude, it’s your big day, and you don’t have to please anybody but you.