Mailing Invitations in 2 weeks

I would not send one to the friend since they had a falling out anyway. They probably aren't expecting an invite if they aren't friends anymore. I would still send one to the friend whose daughter is getting married the day before.

I would not invite the friend FH had a falling out with, it happens and I'm sure that friend knows they wont be invited. I would send the other invitation out even though they said they cant come. This way you have it in writing that they cannot come for sure. You never know plans may have changed. We are planning on inviting people after we get declines back and those people already know they will be invited if there is room.

I wouldn't send an invite to the friend who is no longer a friend. It's not proper etiquette, but oh well. I would send an invite to your friend. I don't know if you'll be having a shower, but they may be put off if they receive a shower invitation but no wedding invitation. Just a thought. I invited my MOHs parents after having a few declines. I haven't invited anyone else after declines. I may choose to over the weekend but it will only be people that would not be offended. For instance, a coworker who started working here 2 months after I got engaged. We only started being friends in late fall of 2018. We had a limited guest list due to venue restrictions.

I wouldn't send an invite either to the friend. He is no longer a friend and he also stated he isn't going to be able to come. I doubt he would expect one either, especially since they had a falling out. It may not be proper etiquette, but you need to do what's right for you and your FH.

Anyone who received a save the date should get an invitation, however, if your FH is fine with losing the friendship, I suppose you could just skip it.

Your friend whose daughter is getting married should still receive an invitation.

B-listing is extremely rude. You should have one guest list and one round of invitations or you’re going to end up with hurt feelings and damaged relationships.

View Quoted Comment I was getting ready to type a response but it was going to be exactly this, so just read this again and pretend I said it 😂

Once someone has declined to come, even verbally after an STD, you have no obligation in etiquette to issue an invitation. This was true when advance info was given over the phone, by letter, or in conversation. I see no reason to not apply the same principle to STD's: When someone tells you something, a decision they have made, the polite thing is to respect that as an adult, they made that decision. And u less they have come to you since, you assume it holds. It is not polite to deliberately disregard what someone told you. It is disrespectful to act as though an adult does not know their own mind, and is likely to keep changing it. Since there was a falling out after this person said no, no invitation. . . . If you have heard that the reason someone gave you has changed, as when someone says, my daughter is getting married the next day, and you heard the wedding is cancelled, it would be okay to ask. But not send am invitation, as though you somehow thought, what? That she probably does not care about her daughter's wedding anymore? That it is likely her fiancé will have dumped her, or daughter will have cancelled the wedding? With a reason like an immediate family wedding, I would assume, they have told you daughter or whoever's wedding is of great importance to them. And it is not nice to imply they might blow it off, no longer care. ... Personally, I hate it when someone asks me something, I answer, then they deliberately disregard what I said. Just ignore it. Like what I said, or the trouble I took to let you know far in advance, so you could invite someone else, , was totally worthless. ... So many people do not answer invitations at all, which is rude. But why bother when people do not listen to what you say about anything, when you do speak up. I really appreciated the people who absolutely were sure they could not come, after we gave them advance notice, and took the trouble to say they had a conflicting obligation, so we would know to invite someone we might not have invited, months ahead of invitations. Considerate behavior. Calls for listening to, and respecting what they say.

I had a similar situation. I chose to not invite the person I had a falling out with. She happens to be a former coworker. I left the job just before the invites went out so I honestly didn’t care if she was upset. I know that sounds harsh but the bottom line is it’s your wedding and you do what you’re comfortable with.

I would say don't send it.

I originally sent my aunt a STD but did NOT send her an invite! I originally sent her a STD because i didn't want to exclude any aunts/uncles to cause drama. Within the last 2 months my grandma had a hard fall and she claims to come VISIT from TX and was not here to help my grandma who we had to put in a rehab care facility.

She wants to exclude herself family group texts on updates for my grandma. She is a narcissist and wants to blame others for everything that happened in her life.

Long story short ...I revoked her invite!