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Maid of honor

Gina, on April 10, 2024 at 10:45 PM Posted in Planning 0 5

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My maid of honor (who I have yet to ask) lives on the other side of the country. We have been very close friends, for the last 10 years, try to visit each other whenever we can, and call each other/FaceTime often. We’re like sisters…I know she lives far away, so I don’t expect her to plan all these things for me. I’m asking her as a symbol of our friendship and I’m hoping she’ll say yes. I guess I started to overthink it when family members asked me who was going to be my MOH. They said “don’t you want to ask someone that lives close by?”… I told them that I’m not just going to ask someone just because they live closer. I’m going to ask my dearest friend…So I’ve been in my head a little bit and wondering if she’ll say no because she’s far. I don’t think so but I don’t know. Is it weird that she lives far away? (I’m going to have 4 other bridesmaids). Just want some reassurance that I’m overthinking and everything will be fine! Lol…

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Latest activity by CM, on April 11, 2024 at 4:29 PM

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Lisa · on April 11, 2024 at 11:30 AM
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It is not weird that she lives far away! Your MOH is supposed to be an honor reserved for your closest friend, not a job that gets fulfilled by whichever friend lives closest or can plan the best. I would set aside what your family members think, and don't consider the distance as a factor in who you ask to be your MOH. If she's who you want to be your MOH, I think you should ask her! For what it's worth, my bridesmaids and MOH each live in a different state across the country, and everything worked out well.
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Andrea · on April 11, 2024 at 12:34 PM
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You’re not hiring someone for a job, you’re choosing your dearest friend who you want standing by your side when you get married. If you’re afraid she’ll say no because of not being close, I’d reassure her when you ask that you don’t expect her to plan a bunch of stuff, just be with you on the big day.
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Michelle · on April 11, 2024 at 1:24 PM
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It’s common and expected to have close friends who don’t live in the same town or state. That is not a character flaw and no one should ever treat it as one, nor is it weird. It’s not appropriate for other people to pressure/suggest/dictate who you choose to stand with you. Shut that conversation down immediately and let them know that you will be choosing the person you are closest to and their location is irrelevant.
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Jacks · on April 11, 2024 at 4:10 PM
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I 1000% agree with you. You don't need a MOH close by in geography, just in your heart.
The wedding party doesn't have to do jobs like help plan the wedding.
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CM · on April 11, 2024 at 4:29 PM
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You are 100% right. Your family members are 100% wrong for all the reasons given by PP. I agree, the role isn't a job, it's meant to be an honor.
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