Maid of honor vs matron of honor

The length of time you're married is irrelevant. A maid of honor is unmarried and a matron is married. Being called something else is the other person not knowing the correct terms.

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Yeah she obviously knew that since the other girl was matron of honor. i asked her "how come we can't just both be matrons of honor...?" and for some reason she just didn't like that haha dunno why. she didn't really have much of a reason other than not wanting two matrons of honor. 🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️ beats me xD

I dunno for some reason matron of honor sounds old lol. I know that technically my MOH is a matron of honor but I have been calling her and getting her personalized stuff as maid of honor. I prefer that term for some reason.

I was my sister's maid of honor even though I was already married. We both just liked the sound of that title better.

I'm not a fan of patriarchal terms for women's "status" in life anyway. I am a Ms. not a Mrs., for instance. Best Men are Best Men whether or not they are married, after all. And for that matter, Bridesmaids are still Bridesmaids even if they are married. So, I think this can all be about personal preference.

My best friend is getting married and I am her matron of honor and another one of her friends is her maid of honor. I am married, the maid of honor is not. So I guess that was an easy one but I have definitely seen women who are married just be called maid of honor. In my personal opinion, I’d rather be the maid of honor cause I think matron makes me sound old 😂

Maid of honor means not married, matron of honor means married. Theres no rules that say you have to be married for x amount of time to be called matron. The length of time you have been married is irrelevant. She sounds to me like one of two things, either she is trying to please the other matron of honor by making her feel important by having you guys have different wording for your titles or like she is trying for some reason to invalidate your relationship.

View Quoted Comment Haha it does sound old doh!

View Quoted Comment That’s definitely a true statement! Hadnt thought of it that way. No one uses bridesmatrons right? Aha that does sound weird

That sounds a bit odd. I would be a little annoyed too, like she's disregarding the importance of your marriage because it's not as long as the other person. My matron of honor has been married for a few years, but if she had only been married for a week she is still my matron of honor. She did tell me she didnt care about the title, but she's likes it now because its "fancy". I'm sorry that would bug me too if my friend did that to me.

Length of time doesn’t matter. Truthfully, I’d be annoyed too. My sister is my Matron of Honor as she is married.

Labeling women based on whether or not they’re married is both sexist and outdated. It sounds like she isn’t a stickler for “tradition” and just wanted you to have two different titles. Yes, how long you are married is irrelevant and she should not have said that, but I wouldn’t be upset about the title itself. It doesn’t mean much anyway and is for a very brief period of time.

My MOH is very married, and also older than me (doesn't look it, though).

We still called her maid, mostly out of habit. Also, she wasn't particularly keen on being called matron.

They are such archaic terms, I don't think it matters anymore.

View Quoted Comment Yeah I like the way you worded it! Non traditional. I don’t mind that aha I think maybe I just felt a bit more annoyed about the fact it felt like she was kinda brushing aside my marriage like eh whatever.

View Quoted Comment That part is definitely annoying! Your marriage is just as valid as anyone else’s marriage. Time doesn’t matter.

KdsI know some people who associate the word matron not with married lady, one definition, or woman head of household, another, but with a third usage: Matron is the title given to women working in prisons and jails, and was/ occasionally still is to the head direct care worker in orphanages and institutions, in older British private schools where young kids have a matron, and get male teachers and tutors in later years. And from old movies, or their parents' life histories, has the connotation of a nasty, controlling older female. Think of the show Annie, the movie Matilda.