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Gabbysitaxo
Dedicated October 2021

Maid of Honor-do i need one?

Gabbysitaxo, on August 17, 2020 at 8:53 PM Posted in Planning 0 12
Hi, so my family wants me to put someone in particular as my maid of honor. But, I kind of just don’t want to have one. I rather just have bridesmaid so this way there are no hard feelings. I also do not want the maid of honor to feel obligated to do things for the wedding.


How do I go about this? Any advice?

12 Comments

Latest activity by Biaani, on August 18, 2020 at 4:14 PM
  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa ·
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    You don't need a maid of honor if you don't want one! If you just want bridesmaids, you could totally choose only bridesmaids.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I think that’s fine to not have a maid of honor
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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated August 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I say it's no big deal! I don't think anyone will really notice or care that you are "missing" a Maid of Honor. If your family is concerned, you should sit down and explain your reasoning to them (if it's important to you that they are on board with your decision!). At the end of the day though, it's your wedding and the decision is yours to make.
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  • V
    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    No you don't need a maid of honor. Even if you were to decide you want one, pick who you want rather than someone your family is insisting you pick. It's your wedding so it is not up to them.

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  • Sexypoodle
    Master October 2021
    Sexypoodle ·
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    Not necessary at all
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    I agree with everyone else! It’s not like they all walk in with a sign claiming they’re the MOH! Lol! I think you have a fabulous idea so you don’t hurt anyone’s feelings.
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  • J
    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    You are the one getting married so you make the final decision. Your family can want anything but that won't make it happen and someone else can do things differently when it's their turn.


    Make sure that you abide by your state's regulations for legal witnesses to sign documentation. Anything beyond that is completely optional.
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  • N
    Just Said Yes July 2020
    Nicole ·
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    I didn’t have a maid of honor for my wedding but just asked different bridesmaids to be in charge of certain things, so everyone knew what to do. I was the same way and didn’t want to pick and hurt any feelings. Just know if you do have your bridal party stand next to you at the ceremony, you’re still going to have to pick who will be the girl standing right next to you which is usually the maid of honor. One of my friends really stepped up through out my whole wedding process and did almost everything so it made it pretty easy for me to pick once the wedding came along since she pretty much took the responsibilities of a MOH without me even asking. I ended up having my brother say my speech Smiley smile
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  • A
    Super October 2021
    Ashley ·
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    You definitely don’t need one! You just need to be sure to have someone to sign the marriage license. If you plan to have a bouquet, a bridesmaid will have to hold it during the ceremony. Beyond that, there’s no reason you have to single out one bridesmaid. You also don’t have to have speeches at all. If you want to have them, you can ask anyone you’d like. We asked my uncle to give one at our wedding.
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  • Gabbysitaxo
    Dedicated October 2021
    Gabbysitaxo ·
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    Thank you all for the input, I truly appreciate it!

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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    I did not have one. I just had bridal party members (bridesmaids and bridesman). I did not feel the need to single one person out when I truly love all of them so much!

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  • Biaani
    Expert May 2021
    Biaani ·
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    Sameee. I'm not having a MOH just 4 bridesmaids and I feel great about it. Actually we'll have 5 groomsmen with 2 BM so we're just totally not following any rules lol

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