lgbtq couples, anyone else concerned about the validity of your marriage?

Not LGBTQ but I just wanted to say how horrifying it is that anyone has to worry about their marriage being revoked. I am crossing all my body parts that our society will not come to this. Expressing all my ally-ship! ❤️

This is awesome! I just had this very conversation with my daughter who’s gay. She was engaged before (to a man) & I had my misgivings but wasn’t going to force anything. The only thing I asked was if she was sure. At the time she was. One day she called, crying, saying she wasn’t sure. My response was “what is your gut telling you to do? Always go with your gut instinct!” She broke it off, finally was honest with herself that she’s gay & told me she was gay. I’m like “and? I’ve never turned my back on you. I’ve worked too long & too hard to raise you. I could care less- my job is to raise her to be a strong, independent, loving woman & to make sure she’s happy.” I am so proud of her- it took so much courage! She’s met the woman of her dreams & they proposed to each other. Originally, they planned on getting married after my fiancé & I get married in April. I brought up the fact that even though it’s law now, laws have been revoked before. They can’t unmarry you. It would be horrible if they made all these plans only to find out the marriage wouldn’t be “real.” They decided to get married in a very small ceremony next month & have their bigger wedding once they graduate college.

I am not within your community; however, I’m heartbroken for the fear of this. I could say many things, but will refrain due to my blood pressure may increase talking about the ignorance behind the possibility of this. Support and love your way 💕

I am so angry and worried on behalf of all my LGBTQ+ friends. Two of my bridesmaids are married... to each other, and they've had a horrific year on a personal level. I can't even see them right now, let alone HUG them, and...

I'm so sorry.

You're not alone in the fight, I promise.

View Quoted Comment This is exactly what I came to say. I hate that this is even a worry, but the horrific fact is that it is. I may not be in the LGBTQ+ community, but I stand by you all. You’re not alone in this fight.

To put it simply. Yes.

Yes. We’re having our ceremony in January but have decided to get officially married before the end of the year.

I am bisexual, however I am getting married to a man so in the eyes of the law my marriage would still be valid. But for my many LGBTQ+ friends I am terrified. As a woman who rely's on birth control and reproductive health services, I am terrified. This is a very scary time for everyone.

View Quoted Comment Me too. I came to say this exactly.
You are not alone in the fight. We got you.

Yes. Our wedding is on 11.6.21, but we have decided to go ahead and get married next month. It won't change the wedding plans, but we are really afraid that we're going to lose rights and fast. It's such a terrible scary feeling, but planning this tiny elopement together has actually been really lovely.

My heart is with all my fellow LGBTQ+ folks. These are scary times we live in. Hug your love extra tight, and make whatever decision is right for the two of you.

I am not within your community however my heart goes out to you,

I heard about this, I’m not within the 🏳️‍🌈 community however it craziest thing I ever hear. How do you take away the right for married couples to be married??? Who the heck do they think they are??? You don’t insert your personal beliefs into someone else’s marriage or family... are on drugs? I’m so sorry. This fires me up it’s just so invasive and wrong to me. I’ll let me stop talking before I start cursing lol

I will never forget where I was in June 2015 when the unconstitutional "defense of marriage act" was struck down. There was so much joy, relief, and celebration. From that day to now, it's sad and shocking how far we have regressed in the US. The fear that marriage equality can be taken away again is very real.

I think it makes a lot of sense for LGBTQ+ couples planning to marry at some point, to fast track their plans now, even it if means a quick legal ceremony in the short term with a big party later (similar to many people's COVID plans). Marry now and and gain those vital legal protections. Almost nothing is more important.

If the worst happens, it seems likely that only future marriages will be impacted, not existing ones (there's precedent for that in California, for example). It also seems likely that even if federal protections are removed, states will still be able to legalize same sex marriages. So where people live will be more important than ever before.

Hi, my future wife and I are getting married on October 23rd, 2021; so we’re barely under a year until our big day. I only recently was made aware of how serious our rights being take away are and I am floored to say the least. My fiancé and I will absolutely get married sooner if necessary, but how do we make that call? Are we over reacting? I know it’s better safe than sorry but what’s too safe? I’m a mess right now and really just wanted to see what other couples are doing.


Thank you for all of the kind words to those of you who do not fall directly into the community but are still allies. Your support means more than you know. ❤️

No words of wisdom, just came in to express my support. Love is love. Period. Hopefully you are in a state that will recognize your marriage even if the god forsaken federal government doesn't... If not, come to my state.