Last Minute Bridesmaids? Wedding "helpers

Nothing wrong with asking someone to help you out as needed. But I wouldn’t call them bridesmaids in any fashion.

You could just ask those friends to get ready with you! Doesn't have to be "bridesmaids" or anything.

That is a pickle! Just throwing out some ideas here. Could you ask the mother/aunt figures on both sides of the wedding celebration to come get ready with you? Maybe get a platter of sandwiches and some mimosas and have a little party? Something cute like "let's get ready together....no boys allowed!" I think they would be absolutely elated to be asked, and it would really contribute to the "union of the families" aspect. And maybe you could video chat with your MOH so she could still be involved...like maybe she could chime in on the placement of the hairpins or veil or something, just so she plays a role? And maybe your friend S could also video in, even though she'll be attending another wedding?

If that idea speaks to you, you could always *also* open it up to your friends J & K to come get ready with you in-person, but with your family members there already, there's less tension between J and K....and it's not as big of a blow if one or the other doesn't show up / doesn't show much wedding-related excitement.

I hope this is at least a little bit helpful! I am excited for you that you'll finally get the wedding celebration!! I hope y'all have a wonderful time!

I second inviting family members from both sides or other female friends to get ready with you without mentioning bridesmaids. Just say you don't have any and want to get ready with other girls before your event.

Thanks all. WW posted before I was ready and didn't let me finish my post. I know I would love to be asked to get ready and have an informal role of helping a friend, but I didn't know if that was a universal thing, or if people would feel like I was "putting them to work" by asking them to help me with my dress or do some pre-wedding prep.

Neither J nor K live close, so asking them to come early to help me get ready would leave their SOs hovering awkwardly somewhere, and I don't want to impose them on my husband's group. I'll most likely just ask a couple of single girlfriends to help, since they probably wouldn't mind coming early and spending extra time we me that day. I think I'm just going to go with the people who are going to stress me out the least and not worry about who I am closest to and such.