Is there a difference?

To be frank there's not really a difference for me. we moved in together months before the wedding and it felt like things didn't change in terms of the dynamic in the relationship which i find nice because it makes me feel that our foundation and love was solid, all the marriage did was just make it even more committed.

View Quoted Comment November 1st will be 2 years of us living together. And that sounds nice, it being more committed. Thank you !!!!

Day to day wise there was zero difference. We’ve lived together since 2017 and we’re comfortable together and it felt the same. But it’s nice knowing that if we have an occasional argument the relationship isn’t on the line. And it’s nice getting some extra tax money this year. And if I get pregnant no one will judge me. And I don’t have to worry about future what ifs. And guys who tried to talk to me even though I told them leave me alone I’m engaged have completely disappeared. Had to get used to a new name. But my relationship with my husband is very much the same.

View Quoted Comment Thanks ! Sounds very positive! I know since being engaged we've become closer and I cant wait to experience that being married

View Quoted Comment Yes I think it’s really positive. People have made jokes to me like just wait 10 years which really irritates me...we’ve been together 5 and we’ve already been through the ringer a few times. We’re very close and in love and strong. It’s been my experience with friends and family that relationships that change after marriage are either bc they never lived together or they just ignored signs that became more obvious after the wedding. I know it won’t always be perfect but I truly believe we have the chemistry and skills to make it last.

View Quoted Comment I really like all the words of advice and how honest everyone is.

There's no magical change. Think about it like when you turned 18. Sure, your status was different, but there wasn't much that was actually different. Your personal circumstances will dictate how different life is after marriage. Since you've been living together for 2 years, probably not. My husband and I have been living together for about 6 years, so getting married last summer didn't really change a lot of the day to day. The best way I can describe it is, the same but happier lol.

View Quoted Comment Aww the same but happier! Good comparison with turning 18 lol. Makes sense!

As others have stated it mostly stayed the same (we lived together almost our entire relationship 5 years), especially for us because we only took 2 days off after the wedding and then straight back to work.
But, I feel like our relationship and bond grew stronger. Even though he was supportive before I think my husband grew more supportive as well as protective. We’re almost a year and a half in and I hope that these things only grow in our relationship, and congratulations!

View Quoted Comment Thanks! And aww a supportive husband is great!

We lived together before marriage but marriage is somehow better. We’re more giddy (even after 3 years) and we’re more connected & committed.

The only change is that now we just get silly about the titles "husband" and "wife".

We have also started to move forward with trying to have a family, but that was our decision, not an automatic.

We lived together and had been dating a long time, so it's more that now we have legal status, and I'm on his health insurance.

View Quoted Comment That's sweet to hear!

View Quoted Comment Ok! He said the same thing regarding the legality of us!

Same, we've been living together for almost 4 years, had a daughter a little over 2 years ago. But! In these past 2 days, I feel like the marriage resparked some flames. We've been off our phones more and giving each other more direct attention. We kinda feel like we're back to the initial dating stage. Giddy, spontaneous. I think we have so much less stress now since we're official. Now if our big ceremony gets rescheduled again, its like no big deal. I think this elopement was a nice wakeup call. Showed us we didn't need anything else but each other to make our day perfect. I feel that alone has just made us grow stronger. It was a minimal as it gets, yet so perfect. I think over the year of planning, I lost sight of that part. Reality check on my end

Not really for us but I believe it’s because our relationship is built on a solid foundation. We dated 6 years and didn’t live together. We had 5 teenage children between us and navigated lots of ups and downs together. It’s been great being married and we’re giddy about the whole thing just like other couples have mentioned. We spent so much time together before we were married that we felt we knew each other’s habits and moving in was seamless. It was actually more exciting and fun (so a change in a good way) when he finally moved in.

If you lived together before getting married, and shared finances, there really isn't much of a difference. You just get a new title and new jewelry lol.

We lived together for about 2 years before getting married in a house I owned. A few months after getting married I sold my house and we bought one together, so you could start making big purchases like that together (if you have not already). But again, it is pretty much the same.

View Quoted Comment Thank you! We have separate finances but will open up a joint savings when I change my name. We have lived together since November 2018. I love the title and new jewelry 😂