Is my gifting for rehearsal dinner getting out of control?

I personally think that gifts should only be given to those that are in your party - bridesmaids, groomsmen, flower girls, MIL/ MOB, etc. and not extended to family. Yes, you may feel like you need to gift people something because they are contributing to your wedding, but, no, you don't have to give them a gift. They are contributing because they care and love you. I don't think it's necessary to buy the grandparents a gift or the aunts.

Okay, so I think the bracelets you have are fine, don't mail one to your FH's grandma because not wanting to leave anyone out isn't a reason to /have/ to give anyone a gift. I wouldn't have ordered some for the other grandmas, but idk if you can return those. I would get your aunt a small gift with a thank you card, just because she is paying for something, but give it to her in private. While you can give these at the rehearsal dinner, they don't have to be in front of everyone to make others feel "left out" which is maybe where you're getting carried away lol.

I would get the flower girl a gift. Something small that is in her interests. Doesn't have to be anything crazy and she probably wouldn't consider jewelry to be a gift. We are putting together busy boxes for our flower girl and ring bearer to give them things to do during the getting ready process and during dinner if they end up staying that long. Otherwise that's a super long and boring day for them.