We are planning a vow renewal for our anniversary. It will be in town, not a destination vow renewal. We wanted to invite family and very dear friends. Intimate event, small guest list.
We do not have children, and never will. When we got married, we requested the reverend took all references to children out of the ceremony due to this.
But I do realize that typically, at our age, a couple would have children. Many of our guests do. And therein lies the biggest issue - a guest list of 12 quickly balloons when you have to invite everyone's children. Calculating our guest list, it's 25 if we include children. It's quite a difference.
I've mentioned it to a few friends (who would be invited, and a few who have kids) and they all responded without hesitation, "we told everyone our wedding was adults-only! No shame!"
But I also realize that a wedding is a formal affair, and a vow renewal isn't, so I'm not sure if this is still okay.
Since we don't have children of our own, we wouldn't be playing "rules for thee and not for me" by allowing ours and no one else's. And I've certainly been to birthday parties for adults that have had a "no kids" policy. But a vow renewal isn't as raucous as an adult birthday party, so I don't know if that applies, either.
Give your honest opinions: would it be rude to have an "adults only" vow renewal?
