Hi there, I have been working with this colleague for couple of years. We used to be close before and used to hang out rarely in the past but after sometime I would say we drifted apart and stopped speaking on the phone and texting each other. We are still ok at work and we talk etc but not as close as before where she used to tell me everything that happens in her life. She is also getting married 4 weeks before me and invited me to her wedding but I am having doubts after i have invited her to mine. The reason is I couldnt help but feel something off about her and our closeness at work seems fake etc and my gut feeling says there is something wrong. Dont get me wrong shes nice to me and everything and makes the effort to go to breaks with me but I cannot help but feel negative towards her. I have seen couple of bad traits in her in the past as well. For example, she believes in materialistic stuff, brags about the things she bought, snobby and makes comments about people's accents. She also has a habit of being distant when other people are with us and kind of not talk to me much as if we are not close. Her and my manager are super close and when they are together they talk about all sorts including talking bad about other people. She is a different person around her and i find it hard to be seen when there is the three of us together, they basically talk to each other without even looking at me which is really frustrating and this has happened all the time.
so after thinking of all these, I am thinking of saying my wedding is not going to be local and we are going to do it abroad as she doesnt know I booked the venue. Also my FH is from abroad so I have got a good reason to come up with that excuse. What do you think?
