Can I get real with you ladies for a minute? In the next week I will be Mrs. K and will return to everyday life. I have two kids, a son who is 12 and a daughter who is 9. My son is not handling the upcoming change well and has been acting out behaviorally the last few weeks. He has special needs (ADHD and PTSD from Narcissistic abuse) and we went through a lot over the summer with his father in court. I ended up getting sole custody of the kiddos and no unsupervised visits for dad. His dad and I haven't been together officially since March 2016 and haven't been together unofficially since 2012. So, for me, in my mind getting married next week doesn't feel "too soon."
Son has been expressing anxiety over the change that is coming. We're in counseling, I'm doing everything I can to help him through this change. FH and I both spend lots of time with the kids, try to do fun things, and they are ALWAYS first. In fact, we are cutting our mini-moon short because the morning after we get married, Son and Daughter have football at 9:30 in the morning. But I still feel like this week I just wanted to focus on me, and getting married, and relaxing with my family and the kiddos. So this week has been so many final touches, and trying on dresses, and working out details. But Son is making it downright impossible throwing an extreme amount of tantrums and just being miserable to be around. He even chopped his hair last night and the only thing I could think was "OMG I have to get that fixed before Friday!" And yeah, he's a kid but now I feel guilty for even getting married and bringing about this change because I know it's a direct influencer of his behavior. I'm already a bundle of nerves and I can't help him and feel ineffective.
