In laws and trips

So your fiancé is consistently making choices to keep his mother and sister happy when you're intentionally being left out? Like, you're being excluded?

Your FI wants to put his mother on the deed to the house? He's planning to have her move in against your wishes?

You have a huge fiancé problem, it would appear. This is sort of a waving red flag. I would definitely think quite a few times before buying a house with or marrying this man. Perhaps some premarital counselling would be of help.

Yikes, I can understand why this would upset you. I hate to say it but if it's happening now it will most likely continue to happen after the wedding perhaps for the rest of your relationship. I d address it now and not go any further until you are sure it has been properly handled. His family should be respectful towards you and your relationship.

I do feel badly for him because nobody wants to feel like they have to choose between their fiancé and their mom/siblings but your feelings matter and should be respected. He needs to set boundaries with them and if those boundaries are crossed he needs to deal appropriately with it. It absolutely will keep happening and possibly even escalate if it's not completely handled now. Good for you for you communicating your needs and feelings keep doing so. Just remember you are a team. If one of you does not feel comfortable with something the other should not do it until the issue has been addressed to both parties satisaction. Best of luck

From what you have shared no I absolutely do not think you are wrong. I do think he's in a tough place because he doesn't want to upset either side But as his future wife he needs to stand up for you and make sure his family is being respectful of you and your relationship. If he s just brushing it off it will get worse. I think every family and relationship is different so I don't see anything wrong with taking trips separately if that's what both parties want to do. In your case it seems like you are feeling hurt and excluded and he's basically saying it is what it is and that's what's wrong here. Your feelings are valid and once you say you are uncomfortable with something and he does it anyway that's a problem and a red flag. He's making a choice here and it's not you and that hurts and is worrisome. it's about more than the trips. Family dynamics can be tricky but what is important is to remember you 2 are a team and to have each other's backs. Compromise and communication are so important in relationships if you struggle in those areas counseling could be a huge help. Best of luck to you.

Oh man it sounds like this has only escalated. You very clearly need to tell him if you are going to be his wife his family needs to be respectful to you, respect you both as a couple, and respect your feelings but more importantly he needs care about your feelings on this matter. You by no means need to be best friends with them but there is no reason to be rolling eyes at people and purposely excluding them from trips. That behavior is childish and there is no place for it in any relationship. You should be included in plans and if you aren't being included he needs to discuss it with you first before he agrees to participate. By proposing to you he is committing to you and saying he wants to build a family with you but his actions and words concerning this matter are not showing that. Going on a separate trip with you afterwards is a ridiculous consolation prize. Very clearly tell him their behavior is hurting you and him just going along with it hurts you even more. Ultimately they don't owe you anything but if he truly wants to marry you and have a family with than he does. You,your feelings, and your relationship with him should be a top priority to him and if he cannot make it that than you deserve someone who wil. l I would set very clear lines here that need to start now while you are engaged (otherwise sadly he ll just keep making excuses). I would not recommend marrying this man if nothing changes. Best of luck to you. Huge hugs!