So a little more explanation. I’m the (will be after my wedding in Feb) Matron of Honor for my friends wedding. Originally she was supposed to be married in May of 2023. I was planning all the usual MoH events and responsibilities Bridal Shower, Bach, Day of details ext.
My friend got married this past weekend in a small civil ceremony, I wasn’t there since they only had some family attend. I asked her a few days before if she was considering this her actual wedding/anniversary and she told me, yes. Their anniversary will be in October. The May wedding is essentially a celebration of the marriage. I’m Eastern Orthodox so I’m not really sure how to navigate all this and what my new or unchanged responsibilities are.
I completely understand her and her now husbands personal reasoning for pushing the date 7 months forward and I am so, so happy for them; but calling her events things like “Bridal Shower” and “Bachelorette Party” just seems weird since she considers herself already married. It’s not like they signed paperwork 6+ months before hand for their personal reasons and don’t consider each other spiritually married yet so I’m just struggling with how to navigate this, still make it fun for her; and acknowledge and respect the fact she’s already been married.
*** I want to note this decision was made last month so I didn’t have time to stop everything and throw a impromptu Bridal Shower and Bach Party for her. At least to the scale I was originally planning. I offered but she declined since she knew it would be hard with my work schedule, time constraints, planning my own upcoming wedding in February and financially since my fiancé and I are trying to pay the wedding off early so *in theory* we could start saving for her wedding festivities.***
Would calling it a wedding shower or ceremony party instead of bridal shower or bachelorette party be correct? What is the standard procedure in these situations? Am I overthinking it? I just want to have ideas ready when I approach her about it and be a prepared MoH! I know her and if it becomes to hard to figure out she’ll forgo everything and I don’t want her to sacrifice her celebration, fun or experience for convenience. I want her to still have a fulfilling and exciting experience! I hope you all understand what I’m asking and where I’m coming from. Please help! Thank you!
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