Hi everyone,
I’m facing quite a predicament and I’m hoping you can help.
I was a friend’s MOH last year. I know her since kindergarten but we weren’t all that close growing up, only started hanging out in the pst 5 years when we both moved to the same city. I was initially shocked to be asked at all considering I didn’t think I was her closest friend and she has a cousin whom she calls her “sister” and sees regularly. I accepted because I didn’t want to let her down and went above and beyond her many lists of tasks for me. During this time, I was treated quite poorly by her and a few people commented on it. It was as if I was an employee rather than a friend. I was hurt and shocked by her behaviour and it caused me a lot of stress. I distanced myself a little since but she continues to refer to me as her best friend although she never asks to meet up, calls or never made any effort with me since my dad fell I’ll last year, not even a phone call.
However, I am now engaged. I have one sister and two very close friends who have been there with me through a lot in life, despite only knowing them 10 years. I want to ask them to be bridesmaids but I know the other girl will be so upset and shocked. I don’t want to seem mean but it wouldn’t make sense to me to ask her only because she asked me.
I know another friend since before kindergarten and I was thinking of asking them both if they would like to say a prayer/reading in the church and since I can’t have everyone as bridesmaid (for financial reasons and the groom only wants 3 groomsmen)
Can I have some feedback please? Am I being mean? Is this the right approach? Please help.