i hated my wedding dress and my whole wedding

So my husband and I got married in early 2021 and I still can't get over everything that went wrong.
First off all, post wedding depression hit me really hard and it literally took me months to get over it.
Second, let me tell you about everything that went wrong.During dress shopping, only coworkers came with and not even family or close friends. I barely tried one 3-4 dresses that I hated and somehow was convinced to buy one of them because according to everyone at the time (I was running out of time) I regretted the next day and called the bridal boutique but I was assured that i looked great.I had a dress in mind that I kept looking for and ended finding the exact dress I've always wanted.Ended up going to another bridal boutique, tried it on and I just loved it even more. However, I couldn't afford it.Called the first place that I got my dress from and somehow, I was able to get a refund of half of what I originally paid for the dress.That still wasn't enough to cover my new dress so I found the same dress I loved used online for a cheaper price.Bought it without realizing, it wasn't even close to my size or the color I fall in love with.I ended up spending thousands on alterations. The dress was size 14 regular and I'm a petite size 4.Alteration took so much work and I hated the process and hated it even more when I realized my mistake. I kept wondering why the sizing was off.
It ended up fitting me and was brought down to size 4 but I just never looked at it the same. I hated the fitting.
Now to the actual wedding. I wanted a nice wedding and I was planning for a nice wedding but I kept telling my husband I wanted something casual. So he kept telling our guest (it's just casual dinner show up with whatever you want)So half our guests wore suits and fancy dresses while the other half wore jeans and Hawaiian shirts.So the whole setup and the theme just didn't go together. I know it's my own fault for not speaking up and I regret that.
About a month from the wedding I got my dress from alterations that took forever and literally drained my bank account. I still wasn't happy with it and ended taking it to a new alterations place that did much better (got my dress just 3 days before the wedding)
2 weeks before the wedding I did my makeup trial and it was super heavy. I didn't look like myself. I asked her to do something light on the wedding day because I want to look like myself.
2 days before our wedding. Our photographer cancelled on us due to family emergency after I took months to find the right one. I lost it trying to find a new photographer but couldn't find anything within the budget and just 2 days before the wedding so our original photographer ended up sending another one that I didn't up being very happy with.
On the wedding day, because we didn't hire a coordinator it was just A MESS.my husband and I did the set up in the morning with the help of the family.My makeup was probably heavier than it was on the trial. Everyone looked at me weird including my husband because I looked like a clown My wedding bouquet that cost more than $1500 ended up being nothing like I wanted My bridal party were busy chatting while I asked so many times for them to steam the veil.My maid of honor had met a new guy the night before and while I was stressed and losing it she kept telling me about himAt the ceremony, I was so nervous and husband and I never held hands. We were just standing there awkwardly Husband and I kept getting calls from vendors even right before walking down the aisleThe food was super called My husband booked our hotel room without notifying the hotel that we are actually the bride and the groom. So we ended up with a room right next to his parents
Husband and I never got pictures at the photo booth because we were so busy dealing with vendorsEven after the wedding those pictures were sent to guests with titles (The Fritzels) which is not even our last name.
I still get told how heavy my makeup was and it hurts because I already know. Or I get told how the dress didn't go well with my skin tone.
I hope someone can learn from my mistake by at least hiring a wedding coordinator, invsiting in a good photographer or just ELOP (still hire a good photographer)
For anyone that felt the same way about their dress. Tell me how you got over it?