i feel like my wedding wasn’t what i expected it to be

I apologize in advance for such a long post. I just need to get this off my chest. My wedding was a few months ago and I keep thinking about how a lot of it didn’t go as planned. Now don’t get me wrong, I know the most important thing is that I married the man of my dreams, but it’s impossible not too look back and think about an event that you planned for so long and it wasn’t what you expected.
To begin with, I picked out my dress after my second dress appointment but a few weeks later I realized that it wasn’t what I wanted but it was too late to change it because I couldn’t return it and because my wedding was coming up soon. It was an A-line style dress and I ended up getting a hoop skirt because I wanted to give it a ball gown look but the day of the wedding I realized it looked a little funky because the poofy effect didn’t work well with that dress style. In all my pictures you can tell that my dress looks a little weird and stretched, and not quite poofy like I had pictured it.
Now onto the photographer I hired. I had previously worked with him a few years ago but his work is not what it used to be. I was very unhappy with how the pictures turned out. There are only a few pictures that I consider decent but everything else just looks like someone could’ve taken with their phone. We even redid some a few weeks ago but I’m still not 100% satisfied with them. Although the second time they were taken by one of my husband’s cousin and he’s not an experienced photographer but compared to my actual photographer he did pretty good. It does make me sort of sad because I wish we had better shots of the actual day to look back on.Also on the day of the wedding everything was rushed and backed up. I stayed up till 2 am decorating the reception room myself with my husband and one of my friends because everyone who was supposed to help me ended up leaving early. Well I didn’t get any sleep because I had to be up at 5 am. Our church ceremony was more than an hour late so afterwards we didn’t get good shots with the bridesmaids and groomsmen or our families since we had to rush to the reception. We were also supposed to go to a different location to take nice pics but we didn’t have time for that, so we ended up doing them outside of the hotel where the lighting wasn’t that great. My videographer was late that morning and when he arrived I was about to put my dress on and get going but instead he was rushing me to try to recreate some makeup footage etc. so that backed us up. My hair updo didn’t look like the trial hairstyle and was already messy right before I walked down the isle. And it was pretty much like that for the rest of the day. My dj was really bad. I had given him a list to follow of the schedule and the songs that I wanted him to play. I had even gone over everything with him weeks before the event. Overall he sounded pretty professional so I was really confident. That changed when a day before the wedding when he tells me that he needs someone to coordinate him and keep him on track with the order of events. Well I asked a few people if they could do that, but I wasn’t able to find anyone. So instead I was the one basically coordinating it and telling him what was up next. When the dance floor opened up he played really old songs and definitely not what I had on the list. I told him to also try to translate the important things to Spanish because our wedding was multicultural but he didn’t so it caused a lot of confusion during certain times. Not to mention when we would go up to him to tell him what to announce next (which we certainly didn’t have to) he was wandering off outside of the room or at the bar. He didn’t even announce when it was time to cut the cake after we told him like 3 times. Not sure if he was too drunk or what happened but he was really unprofessional and definitely not what he made it seem that he was.Overall these were the main things that I didn’t like about my wedding and I realize that nothing ever works out perfectly and I can’t change the past but I feel like I just need advice on how to get over this feeling. I planned my own wedding and it was really stressful because I didn’t know what I was doing. Also as I mentioned before my husband and I come from different backgrounds and trying to plan something that would work for both sides and that everyone would sort of understand was very difficult. I keep comparing myself to other brides and I feel bad knowing that my pictures didn’t turn out as good and that we didn’t get everything done that we had planned. So I just need some advice on how to get over these feelings.Thank you in advance.