i feel like my wedding day was a mess...

I'm so sorry. Where was your bouquet that your coordinator didn't think to give it to you? My guess is that no one thought to fix your hair because nobody wanted to interrupt your ceremony or draw attention to your hair falling down. Had you told the photographer ahead of time about needed to take the golf cart? That is something she should've been told in advance. Did the DJ know he was supposed to give away your centerpieces because I have never seen that done at a wedding before?

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She I guess my bouquet was on our sweetheart table in a vase. I want to write an email to the venue, but I almost feel like what can be done about it? It's over and done with.

Yes, we spoke to the DJ 5 days before, he was a friend of my fiance and we told him to give away the centerpieces. He said he would do some little game to give them away.

I'm not sure if the Coordinator told the Photographer about the golf cart, but I'm assuming thats her job to kind of run the show and dictate how things are gonna flow...

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Was this a coordinator you hired or just the venue coordinator? From what you have described, it sounds like the coordinator was a venue coordinator rather than one you hired. A venue coordinator is respond for making sure everything runs smoothly with the venue itself not necessarily communicating with your vendors. We had a venue coordinator, but we were responsible for providing all information related to our wedding to our vendors. The venue coordinator made sure the venue knew certain things like the layouts of the tables or how many seats were supposed to be at each table.

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She was a venue coordinator. But at our rehearsal I asked her if she was going to be running the show because we had no idea what we were doing. And she said "Don't you worry I have the best of the best working your day!" I said, "Oh, you won't be there?" Didn't know I wouldn't be working with her....she made it seem like things would be taken care of.

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I get it. We worked with one coordinator throughout the whole process, but we had a different at rehearsal. However, both coordinators were there on our wedding day. It sounds like there was unfortunately miscommunication and while I get that it is totally upsetting there isn't really anything that can be done about it now. Where was your bridal party when she went to send you down the aisle? Mine was right in front of me so they definitely would've noticed and said something when I didn't have my flowers.

I cannot tell you how to feel but I just want to say almost every wedding has problems. Every bride here has said there were issues the day of. We as brides build up the most immaculate day but problems do occur. I agree with Veronica, if she is an assistant maybe this was thrown on her last minute. I get you being the nervous wreck but I would not put it on the coordinator to remember the bouquet. As for the DJ not sure it is common they ask for centerpieces to be taken home so benefit of the doubt he forgot. I am sorry for the problems that occurred but may I ask you, did you have fun at all? Do you think anyone noticed these snafoos? I am sorry these things happened but from the outside looking in this does not seem horrible to say the wedding was a mess. The wedding party not showing up, parents or groom being hungover, food not being there or the cake falling would have been a castrophy. I am not trying to down play how you feel or what happened but I guarantee you no one noticed those mishaps and I hope the day marrying the love of your life made you happy. I am sure your wedding was a great day and I do not want you to look back and think it was horrible,

Not to lessen your experience but those things sound pretty small- guest would definitely not noticed at all, I can assure you that. Yes annoying some of the photos mightn’t be perfect but let’s hope all the others are! Sounds like it’s very common for brides to forget the bouquet down the aisle too! Again I’m sorry it wasn’t perfect, but maybe it’s these things you can look back on and laugh in a few years time!

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I had about 15 people ask why I didn't have my bouquet and asked why I didn't carry it. And EVERYONE said "Why didn't anyone help you with your hairrrr?? omggg, we we're just staring at it like why is no one helping?!" So, it made me feel stupid.

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Thats what I said to them. :-/

Ah man, but please try to remember the parts of your wedding that was beautiful because i am sure there were !

None of these sound like significant issues at all. I'd move on and enjoy being married.

Hi Jennifer, honestly things like this happen at every wedding including my own. Things that went wrong at mine: our sailboat ice sculpture collapsed, I wanted to take pictures in a convertible by the water and didn’t happen, no one at the venue lit the candles I paid extra for to give that warm glow vibe, along with other mix ups!! You know what was amazing? I got calls and texts in the following weeks it was the best wedding according to so many guests ❤️ I never mentioned to them all the things that I knew were mishaps, because to my surprise, few even noticed!


From one covid bride to another, the fact we pulled a wedding off during this makes us freaking rockstars!!! Keep your chin up because I guarantee your wedding went better than you think (we are all our own worst critics). Sending love and positive vibes ❤️😉🍰

I understand that all these details feel magnified to you because you had a certain idea in your head of how it should go. But i promise no one else noticed any of these things. Some of those things are very annoying especially that they surprised you with a new coordinator. I would try focusing on all the great things that happened so that a few months from now when you think about your day thats all you remember

I understand your feelings focus your attention to the things that went right I bet you looked amazing

I am so sorry to hear that these things happened! Just like you I planned every detail the best that I could, and let’s just say, the things I worried about went perfect and the things I didn’t worry about went wrong. Our photographer was disorganized at the church and I didn’t get half of my pictures that I wanted there. She was 40 minutes late to the park we were taking photos at with the bridesmaids and groomsman... it ended up causing a argument between my now husband and I and everyone got involved... so our whole night we were upset with each other. It’s crazy Bc that’s all I can focus on when our ceremony was so beautiful. But you just have to remember, you’re married to the love of your life, and try your best to focus on the good things ❤️