Hello all I am gonna get right into this. In the past I have posted about how family on either side has not been supportive of our marriage due to some past issues that my now husband family still has with me . For one thing his mother and sister were never bonded with him like that according to him. Long story short we met in 2012 he spoke about marriage in 2014 but we didn't get around to it until 2019 and due to covid we married in may this year. For the longest time he has suffered from depression and ADHD. While he made me aware of the depression part early in the relationship we did not find out about the adhd until 2016. We knew something else was wrong but didn't know what.
Here's where the drama kicks in: Because I didn't know what way to turn I reached out to his mother and sister to explain what's going on with him (behavior wise) and if they can assist me or at least give me a lead so I can get help for him. Well his mother response was "I did the best I can he's in your hands now". His sister whom I haven't even met still to this day got extremely defensive and hysterical to the point where she will not even speak to HIM at all. She left Facebook because of this in the past she won't even call him because she says if she contacts him she would have to talk to me because we are married now and she still have hurt feelings from the past and doesn't want to be bothered. Now when all of this happened in the past he explained to me that his people are not normal that's why he doesn't deal with them at all and that I should not have reached out to them and I should have talked to him about it. However he states he is NOT mad with me or resents me but I feel like crap. He didn't tell me this until AFTER the fact. The problem is HE didn't even know what was wrong either at THAT time. We got a diagnosis in 2016 which is 4 years later. So for 4 years being lost in the sauce on whats going on. At times it was kinda rough but I love him regardless and would do anything for him.
Now his mother never said anything about this to him until last night when he asked if anyone once again would his family would be interested in coming to our reception next May on our 1 year anniversary. She then proceeds to bring up the past and tells him "Well your sister still has hurt feelings about the past and the family may not come."
What bother's me is this if something happens to him I still would have to reach out to these people to inform them. He said only his mother and sister but his sister is still holding a lifetime grudge. Now keep in mind I have stated they he informed me that his family never was in his life at all but now they are blaming me and not speaking to him as a result which I think isn't right at all. If you don't want to deal with me that's fine but your brother that's your brother. I didn't enter his life until 2012 He seem to not care but I don't know I feel in some small way this may bother him still. Did I screw up I need some insight on this? Did I literally screw for a family that was never there in the first place?
