How would you feel if you were asked to PAY to attend a wedding??

Hahahah that is absolutely insane. The only way i would pay for a wedding is if I had to buy a ticket to a destination wedding.

If you cant pay for your guests to come to your wedding, then you shouldn't be inviting that guest.

I totally agree with you!

I used to be a wedding coordinator for a venue and I had a few brides do this. I thought it was super tacky and not something I would feel comfortable with.

I guess it depends on who it was though whether I paid or not.

Wow, that's ridiculous! I'd definitely decline attending that event!

LOL. I would say it's too funny if I hadn't seen it as an idea on WW.

Very tacky and disrespectful

@PurpleSun yes indeed, the only way I would pay my way is for a DW

@Soon to be Mrs. S, I can't believe brides have the audacity to do this, really?? I feel bad having a cash bar, but at least that's common these days. Do they expect a gift from the guests as well? cuz that crazy.

$60? That's a steal! LOL...just kidding! I would not attend a wedding that I had to pay to attend. Once I got there I would feel like I owe them a gift too. If FH and I had to pay for our own wedding, we would probably have had a nice dinner for immediate families, and that would have been that.

@ Tee76 your getting married on my daughter's birthday and I'm getting marriend exactly 2 months after you

Sorry had to add that.

Oh btw were having open bar.. But yes Very Tacky, and to provide tickets like the guests are attending a movie or something.. What if the guest forget their ticket at home, would you turn them away at the door?? smh

I consider myself very flexible on etiquette and my mouth dropped to the floor when I read this one!

I've heard of cases where someone was low budget but wanted something more expensive like a bigger cake or live music. So they spoke to family members and good friends privately telling them that they would appreciate help with paying for that rather than a gift.

I guess I could see quietly making suggestions of what you could use help paying for instead of a gift, but to REQUIRE pay for admittance? wow.

I once went to a friend's wedding where it was pot luck and though family members raised eyebrows I didn't mind at all and everyone had a great time.

it's one things to think outside the box, and then there's just plain tasteless! if you are so strapped you need people to pay, then either have a cake and tea/punch reception or have a ceremony only!

HAHAHA that's a new one. I would write in "HELL TO THE NAW" on the RSVP.

LOL @ BrevardMinister

@Luckiest well my coworker did not have a choice in her case since her boyfriend decided NOT to buy her a ticket. I would have declined respectively.

I'm in shock! That is beyond rude....unbelievable.

I know this is a recent "trend" happening... and I am personally not a fan. One of my colleagues is doing this - asking guests to pay for their deal in lieu of a gift. Except as far as I am concerned, gifts are not mandatory.

In these instances, I think there should be a ceremony and cake & punch reception with the option to go out to dinner informally that night. That way everyone can pay their own way IF they choose to - they can also choose the meal they like and the cost they are comfortable with.

I def would not go. that is beyond rude.

@FutureMrsB...wait did you say that this is a trend??? what is the world coming too?

Now I know sometimes we kick proper etiquette out the door depending on culture, them, tradition what have you, but this is beyond tasteless...it's apalling to ask your invited guest to not only pay for a ONE day event for you, but to also provide a gift.

I would not attend, unless they were very close family. But I would still advise them not to do this. :-/

What? Unless they're royalty selling special tickets to the public and giving the funds to charity they could bite me! I thought knowing someone who expected her wedding guests to Bring their own everything (food, beverages, chairs etc) was bad. This is just above and beyond that

That's ridiculous. I have never, ever heard of that!

I wouldn't go. No way.

That's crazy

No way.