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VIP October 2021

How to word the invitation for specific number of guests

Monica, on August 20, 2021 at 1:45 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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Im sending out invitations. Im doing a mix of e-invites via text message for some, some via facebook and some via mail for older guests who are not technology savvy. (I know this is very informal. We originally had beautiful layered invitations with rsvp cards & the whole 9yards the first time before we postponed and I refuse to spend that much time & energy into invitations again)

So since I will be messaging some people directly im hoping we will have a better rsvp rate (whether they rsvp yes or no).
But my issue is trying to word the message to let the guest know exactly who im inviting. For example last time I mailed an invitation to FHs cousin. HER NAME was on the invitation but she sent back a RSVP for 10ppl. Her, her grown kids, their spouses, and her grandkids. How do I avoid this time around?
Do I say, “We have reserved 1 seat for you at our wedding, hope you can join us”
And for those who have young kids (lets say a family of 3) “we have reserved 3 seats for you. . .”
Does that sound good? Any suggestions

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Latest activity by Jacks, on August 20, 2021 at 10:36 PM

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Yasmine · on August 20, 2021 at 1:53 PM
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I think your wording sounds good! I would put whoever was invited on the invitation and include the wording that you suggested - No one should be confused by that!
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Monica · on August 20, 2021 at 1:57 PM
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Girl you would be surprised how many might still be confused lol BUT since its a little more personal with private messaging for the majority of the guests, I will be able to clarify easily.
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Candace · on August 20, 2021 at 2:19 PM
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I can totally see some of my extended family doing something like that. I think the wording you suggested would be perfect!
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Yasmine · on August 20, 2021 at 2:53 PM
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Lmao right, you could at least address it right then and there rather than waiting for the RSVP in the mail and addressing it later.
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Jasmine S. · on August 20, 2021 at 4:23 PM
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It's very common for cards (whether printed or virtual) to say something like "We have reserved 2 seats in your honor" so they know exactly how many they can bring.
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Heather · on August 20, 2021 at 5:36 PM
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Go with that wording! Still put the names of who you are exactly inviting. If they STILL do that.. (LOL) then I would suggest calling them directly and let them know that you had reserved two seats for them and ask them the two people who will be attending. And of course put your foot down that you had to limit it because of the venue, COVID, or whatever it may be
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Theresa · on August 20, 2021 at 6:51 PM
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I doubt they're confused. They're tryin to see how far they can push the envelope. I think that wording is perfect. It takes away their ability to invite whoever they please.
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Monica · on August 20, 2021 at 7:01 PM
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I realize that Im not going to have to do this for everyone, just a select few “special” people that need some boundaries lol.
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