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Haaley
Expert December 2019

How to direct people to registry without inviting

Haaley, on September 1, 2018 at 5:46 PM Posted in Registry 0 18
My FH and I are planning to have a very intimate wedding with only family and closest friends. We have very large families and have had to leave out family members that are more distant/ not as close to us.
We wanted to allow them to still be involved by seeing our wedding website and registry.

Is it not proper etiquette to send out your website/ registry info to people who are technically not guests?

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Latest activity by CM, on March 9, 2024 at 11:07 PM
  • Haaley
    Expert December 2019
    Haaley ·
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    Also how would you go about telling people about the registry without them thinking you are just asking for gifts?
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    You do not send people who are not invited to your wedding website. You can send them an announcement (with photo) afterwards.

    Do not send send anyone registry info unless they ask for it. Then you can tell them. 👍
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  • M
    Super August 2018
    Marta ·
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    Unless they ask you for your registry information I think it comes off as gift grabby giving them info to something they aren’t invited too.
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  • Kiwibride
    Super November 2018
    Kiwibride ·
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    Don't send them your website. There's no need to show off all the details to something they're not invited to. Showing them the registry will come across gift grabby.

    Show them pictures after the wedding or discuss details if they ask specific questions but what you're suggesting is inappropriate
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  • Haaley
    Expert December 2019
    Haaley ·
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    Well people have specifically asked and I have had multiple suggestions to just share the website
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  • Katie
    Dedicated October 2018
    Katie ·
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    Nope nope nope. It you make it public and searchable they can easily find it themselves. It would be very poor form to outwardly and directly send them info on how to find your registry.
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  • Haaley
    Expert December 2019
    Haaley ·
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    Not directly like email or in mail.
    More like sharing on social media.
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  • Katie
    Dedicated October 2018
    Katie ·
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    I think that would actually be worse, to be totally frank. I'm assuming you have more than just close family on your social media.... in which case posting a link for everyone in your digital world, 99.9% of who are not guests, could be viewed as pretty offensive. I have never heard of anyone doing this.
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    That's exactly what you're doing. What other reason would you want to send them your registry, just to check out the cups you found at Target?

    Not inviting someone to your wedding, but sending them your website and/or registry is incredibly rude. You don't get to ask someone for a gift without even inviting them to the wedding.

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    Master July 2018
    Cuoghi ·
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    Social media is sharing directly. Word of mouth or searching will get them the website. Why would they need to go to your website anyways if they arent invited?
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  • Haaley
    Expert December 2019
    Haaley ·
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    Everyone is saying this is rude but I have had many family members already tell us they can't make the trip and still want to see the website. This is all just discussion; before invites have been made let alone sent out.
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  • Haaley
    Expert December 2019
    Haaley ·
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    Because some people still want to be involved even though they can't go. My FH aunt has health problems that keep her from traveling at all. The only way for her to see anything about it is through the website or after the fact, which just makes her sad.
    We were just trying to consider whether more of our family members might have circumstances like that.
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  • Victoria
    Super May 2019
    Victoria ·
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    If someone asks to see the website or registry then tell them directly, but it is rude to send it to everybody if they’re not invited to the wedding.
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  • Kristen
    VIP August 2018
    Kristen ·
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    Only share the website with people who specifically asked to see it. If someone sent me the website to a wedding I wasn't invited to I would assume they wanted me to see their registry to buy them a gift.Once you get married they can see all of the pictures on social media anyway.


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    Mim ·
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    There is no problem sharing the information IF someone asks for it. Telling anyone, invited or not, without them asking is rude. It might seem like a hassle to answer the same questions over and over, but that's a part of life.
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  • Shelby
    Devoted September 2018
    Shelby ·
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    If you share your wedding website (social media or other ways) be prepared for uninvited guests to show up. My friend did this and ended up with over 400 guests at her wedding. They ran out of food, seating, and cake.
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    Just Said Yes February 2025
    Marisa ·
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    I’m looking for a way to go about this as well. I don’t want people thinking I just want the gift but I want to share it for the family who may want to buy us a wedding gift who we cannot invite due to funds
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    CM ·
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    As everyone on this thread said 5+ years ago, you would only share individually when and if someone specifically asks you for the info, never on social media, a mass email, a group text etc. That would be inappropriate.
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