Honeymoon Donation Box?

Personally, yes I'd be shocked to see this at a wedding. It's the kind of thing I'd probably tell other people about like "You wouldn't believe what these people had at their wedding that I went to this weekend.." You could set up a honeymoon registry in place of a gift registry. www.thehoneymoon.com is a good one but there are plenty all over the internet. This way their contribution IS their gift and you don't look like you're begging for money at your own wedding. I'm sure not everyone would react the way I would, but that's my opinion.

I would agree with the previous posting-- make a honeymoon registry. You will probably receive a fair amount of checks as gifts anyways (if you're worried about this u can make your registries smaller) so you can just put those towards your honeymoon

I concur with the previous post about posting a honeymoon donation box. However, my MIL approach me a few months ago and asked me if I wanted a wishing well. I didn't know what that was until she told me. I've attached a few links to explain, it an alternative to gifts for couples that may be living together or already have a lot of household items already. I mentioned it to a few friends at work and some of them had actually heard of it. Just food for thought.

http://www.weddingwishingwells.co.nz/

http://www.diyinvitationsensation.com/Wishing_Well_Wording.html

Definitely tacky! Are you doing a dollar dance, or I think in MD they are called apron dance?

People are going to give what they are going to give, and aren't going to come to a wedding with extraneous cash on hand. In all honesty it seems that more and more of the weddings we've been shooting lately have been far fewer gifts, and the envelope drop box has been getting fuller.

I have a general question about the wishing well- do you put a card in the invitation that mentions that you are having a wishing well? I think this would be a good option for us since we have lived together for the last 9--almost 10 years... ;-)

That link that on there for wishing well wording was great... I liked this one:

WISHING WELL WORDING

Poem 2

Because at first we lived in sin

We've got the sheets and a rubbish bin

A gift from you would be swell

But we'd prefer a donation to our Wishing Well!

That would be a definite no. Please listen to the other posters and do a honeymoon registry. Or if you want plain cash try www.rainfallofenvelopes.com

I feel a lot like you do about how I would feel if I saw a donation box of some sort, but I really think it depends on the person on how they will react. My FH and I really want to buy a house and dont have a place to put any of the typical gift items, so we created a small registry at two locations and also found a place called dayafterthewedding.com or something like that. Its on my website if you want to look. They allow you to custom pick what you want the money for, its not limited to one place or one activity, you just get checks from the company as people make there gift donations. I would still have a card basket or wishing well at the reception, because some people might see that you want money for a honeymoon through the registry but bring cash instead of using a credit card. I wouldnt care, but you never know what others would think.

I don't think this is something to be put on the gift table. However, I have seen people put a little dish/jar at the bar with a "honeymoon fund" sign on it. This way people throw in their loose change from buying drinks.

I'm goning to have to say no on that one, if you want $ towards a honeymoon, I would do a honeymoon registry.

Thanks for all your suggestions! I asked a few people at work and it was kinda 50/50...come to think of it, I never carry cash on me anyway either...well I actually might take some to a wedding but most weddings ive been to were open bars. the jar next to the bar is a good idea...maybe theres some way of making it look a little nicer than just a glass jar with a peice of paper taped on it? how do people put donations into the wedding registry? do you just do it online and then at the wedding have a card saying, a donation was made to your registry? We have been living together for a while, but we would also like some better kitchen gadgets and such, as we bought pretty cheap stuff when we first moved in...although we aren't planningon buying a house until a little later so we would have no where to put any gifts? I don't know, but thanks everyone!

Go to my website and click on the registry section. I have registered for both the honeymoon and a small traditional gift registry, we are in the exact same boat as you. You can see how it's all done through mine and get some ideas. It's really easy and convenient for you and your guests. When they buy something off of your honeymoon registry, the site keeps the money and then sends you one total check for ALL the money people spent at the end. This particular site charges a 7% fee but I figure it's the same as sales tax anyway. Some do not charge but then they make your guests sign up for advertisements and stuff. Look at mine to see what I mean

www.weddingwire.com/chadandlaura

Congrats on your upcoming wedding. If you do an internet search for "honeymoon registry" you will find many sites that can help you. Is this a traditional way to go no, BUT this is your day. I have seen where couples have stated please no gifts at all just donate to this charity. No a days many couples are joining to homes. Who needs another blender. You will, if you have not already, give many things to charity, as you can only combine so many things from your homes. I have seen to many couples not go on a honeymoon because of the cost for the wedding. I say go for it! What is the difference if they give you towels in pink or a pink petal hot springs soak for two on your honeymoon?

Best Wishes.

I think its not necessarily a bad idea... so long as you make it fun somehow. Mrs Cherry Pie on weddingbee did that and people thought it was fun and funny. I think they only got $40 or so, so I really wouldn't expect alot, but if you are going to do it, it needs to be fun.

LOL. I agree with the above responses. Asking for "donation" on top of gifts may not go over well with some guests. It's funny because at Korean weddings, nobody gives actual gifts. All gifts are in cold hard cash (or check), and that's the norm. Quite handy actually because I can use the $ to buy things i need. I set up a registry for my non-korean friends/coworkers.

Consider a site web site like www.passingthru.rovia.com which has a honeymoon registry.

Much like the registry at a brick and mortar store, your guests can "contribute" towards the honeymoon or purchase bits and pieces of it such as a bottle of champagne for night #1 or breakfast in bed for the morning after.

There are many options. It is free to register and the travel pricing is the best on the web. They have something else you won't find on any other travel site, a real person to talk or chat with.

The wedding registry link is at the bottom right.

There are many sites nowadays that allow you to tactfully regsiter for cash for anything you want, your honeymoon or a downpayment or even couples' golf lessons. That is probably the best approach here - the key is to find a registry that lets you really register for the things you need, not just traditional items that you may not want.

Donation box- no

lock box for cards- yes!

ive seen it happen many times where cards (often with cash or checks) are set on a table with gifts and that some how walk away and never get given to the happy couple. so it is a good idea to have a box for guest to place cards the someone can put into a locked car after the start of the reception, to ensure that this doesnt happen

WELL I AM GETTING MARRIED IN AUGUST AND WE ARE HAVING AN OPEN BAR FOR OUR GUESTS SO I DONT SEE A PROBLEM WITH HAVE A HONEYMOON FUND JAR. WE ARE HAVING A HONEYMOON FUND JAR

I disagree with all the negative posts. I am a wedding planner and this is done frequently. I actually just planned a wedding a few of the guests said they really actually liked the idea of donations because it meant that they knew that what they were giving MEANT something because it would be put to better use than a random present that they weren't even sure they would use. Either way, it's YOUR wedding, you can do whatever you want and if people don't like it or respect it then they can shove it. They are your friends and family and will love you either way.

We've been seeing these donation jars here and their lately. Its a bit tacky and if they belong anywhere its on the gift table. Everyone always wants to put them at the bar. I have had many bartenders complain that they didn't make ANY money because everyone thought they were tipping the bartender and all the money was going into this "donation" jar. I think its very misleading to put this at the bar. My bartenders have said people put money in the jar all night thinking they are tipping them but they don't see any of it!

If you want to have a money jar that's great, just don't hose the staff that's busting there but all night for your reception!