Honeymoon baby?

Only you can decide what’s right for you. Everyone’s journey to parenthood is different, including how easily they get pregnant. Some are able to get pregnant on their first try, but for others it takes longer. The average couple takes about 3-6 months to conceive. I’m 34 and my husband and I have been trying unsuccessfully for 3 years now. I know people older than me who got pregnant within a few months and have perfectly healthy babies. If you got pregnant on your honeymoon, would you feel like you will regret it? If you decide to wait and it doesn’t happen as quickly as you want it to, will you regret not starting the process sooner? These are questions that only you and your partner can answer.

View Quoted Comment Thank you this really helps. Upon discussion with my fiance I feel like if I were to wait just to find out we were going to have difficulty conceiving I would probably regret not trying sooner. Ultimately I would be happy about getting pregnant and excited for a baby but also nervous at the same time but I've been told that is most first time parents and it's normal.

I think it is important to avoid medications and shots as much as possible when trying to get pregnant. Also eat healthy foods -- natural whenever you can. Check into any possible contributors toward autism since that has been increasing at drastic rates over the last 60 years. So there are likely things we are doing wrong in our society that leads to problems happening with the children.

View Quoted Comment I agree, I made a promise to myself a long time ago that if I had fertility issues I wasnt going to result to IVF, etc. I would much rather adopt if it comes to that.

To me, a concern would be the fact that you only recently moved in together, and
only know each other for about a year. That’s still well within the honeymoon stage. And while what they say is true, that there may not be an ideal time to have a baby, I’d want a better sense of how you function as a couple before bringing a child into the world. Plus, you say there are some financial issues.

My advice is to consult with a fertility specialist, both to get some objective facts and figures as well as to do some testing on both sides to give some assurances if you do decide to wait a bit. The difference between 31 and 32 is likely quite small assuming no preexisting conditions. As for IVF it may likewise benefit you to speak to a reproductive endocrinologist to have a realistic sense of the frequency of risks and how likely they are in that practice, ie multiples etc.

I was 25 when we got married and I stopped birth control right before we got married. I had issues with my period returning and ended up being diagnosed with PCOS. I had to be on medications to resume my period and then on medication to help incease our chances of conceiving. It took us just over a year to get pregnant. I was on the first medication for about 3 months and the second one for 5 months. This was completely unexpected. I'm not saying this to scare you, but getting pregnant isn't always easy. I've known multiple couples who have been trying for 5+ years and others who have gotten pregnant right away. In your situation, I probably wouldn't wait knowing you might not get pregnant right away.

As someone who will be very lucky in her age to get pregnant after we get married, I still side with the folks in here saying do it at the pace right for you and your fiance. There's always going to be a lot of stigma and association with birth defects bleeding into the conversation from older relatives. I get hit with it all the time. Ultimately, there's no perfect time to get pregnant, you jump in when you and your partner feel like it's time and you make it work! Eat healthy, stay active, take your prenatals and talk to your doctor.

Also, sidenote, and take it with a grain of salt since I myself am not a medical professional: a couple studies from recent years built a correlation between dosing acetaminophen (Tylenol) to children under the age of two and autism diagnoses, as well as taking it during pregnancy. The links between autism and geriatric pregnancy, which begins at 35, are not clearly defined, as the study in question assessed women over 40--and is almost 15 years old, make of that what you will--gives you almost a decade before its stats are self-applied. It's likely if you maintain a healthy lifestyle based on the recommendations of your doctor, at your age you will be fine. Just a little information to put your fiance at ease.

Best to you and yours.

View Quoted Comment I don't really see a ideal situation because it's a lose lose situation if I wait there are higher risks due to age and if I don't wait it may be trying to our marriage regardless of how strong our foundation is. However, just to be clear we aren't having financial issues we are financially sound I am just worried about how our financial situation would change with a child but that's going to change regardless. I have been seeing a reproductive doctor and I've been informed the closer I wait to 35 it's considered a geriatric pregnancy so I would be considered high risk and there is more chance for genetic diseases and higher risk on the mother to develop problems. I have a history of fibroids and with hormones they are now non existent but I've been told they can come back and they can't predict that time frame so it's crucial if I'm wanting to have a child that we try sooner rather than later. Fibroids are also a indicator of birthing complications if I were to get pregnant when they are on the larger side and could lead to miscarriage. My fiance and I have discussed these factors quite a bit and prayed on it. We both communicate very well we are just having trouble deciding on the best course of action and would prefer a non biased point of view. As far as IVF goes we don't want to pursue that due to personao beliefs.

View Quoted Comment That was also my thought my maid of honor has been trying for 5 years with a fertility doctor and she is about to be 32. If there are complications I would rather get started now versus wait for a higher risk situation.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for speaking with such a open heart and open mind.