Help!! My future husband is in his feelings

Sorry but the wedding dress is always a surprised. My fiancé isn’t telling me about his tux. And I paid for it with my money because I wanted the dress I wanted. He knew I went and was looking. Is he upset as he didn’t shop with you, because you made payments, used his credit card?

He needs to get over himself. The bridal gown is the sole preview of the bride and her side of the things, and no input from FH is needed or necessary! If he was paying for it then perhaps a budget discussion, but the gown itself is ALWAYS a surprise!

I think the not sharing of the financial part was the issue, not so much the dress itself because the dress is always supposed to be a surprise. I remember telling my FH that I found a dress I love but the cost was much more than I was wanting / willing to spend. He asked the cost and I told him, he told me it was ultimately up to me, but I told him that I could find the dress online at a much reduced cost. And that's exactly what I did. I did the same thing with our wedding bands. Retail they would've cost nearly $3k and I found them online (identical) for $300 total. That's a huge savings and I'd much rather spend that money elsewhere.

Money / finances are always going to be a BIG DEAL in a relationship and that's where constant communication must take part.

The dress itself can definitely be a surprise but not all couples choose that. My FH does not want to see my dress at all, and I paid for it with my own money, but I told him how much I spent and when I got it and such.

If your FH wants to see your dress and you want it to be a surprise, you can always meet in the middle by giving away some details (like the silhouette or fabric) but not literally trying on the dress in front of him.