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Just Said Yes July 2022

He wants a casino wedding

Michele, on August 18, 2021 at 2:11 PM Posted in Wedding Reception 0 11


Hi all, my name is Michele, and I'm about to have a nervous breakdown. My fiancé and I have been engaged for almost a year now. We've discussed our wedding plenty of times, and we always agreed that we won't plan anything grandiose or massive. The idea was to just get on with it and get it done when the time comes. Well, the time has come, and now his tune has changed. Smiley ups


It started with him wanting half of his bloody mates to come, which probably doesn't sound too bad until you learn that he's a part of one of the largest football fan groups in Liverpool, and he wants half of them to come. We've fought over it and somehow reached an agreement. He could invite a reasonable number of people, and we could still make the whole thing short and sweet..


But then, then he told me WHERE he wants us to have a wedding. He wants to do it in a casino. That's right, he wants to get married in a gambling den. And mind you, it's not a luxurious casino like one of these https://www.nodeposithero.com/feature/biggest-casinos-in-the-usa/ , it's the Genting Club Queen Square. I broke down crying when he told me as I literally couldn't take any more of his nonsense.

How do I make him change his mind? He is very adamant about having the wedding there, while I feel dirty just imagining it.

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Latest activity by Nicholas, on February 19, 2024 at 2:21 AM
  • Jessyca
    Dedicated September 2021
    Jessyca ·
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    That sounds like a tough spot to be in.

    For the number of guests i would remind your FH that every person has to be paid for - that might help him come to a smaller list

    For the venue, i would suggest using that spot for the "after party", rehearsal dinner, or something along those lines and see how he feels about it.

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  • Emilia
    Super June 2019
    Emilia ·
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    Hi ! Well, the wedding should be for 2 of you, so everyone has to compromise... you and him ;-) Why does he want a casino ? For the place itself or for the decor ? You could do a casino-themed wedding, with some black-white-red decorations but in another place maybe...?

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    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    I checked out their website and it doesn't even look like they host weddings. But is it that he wants a casino theme because if that's the case you could just have it at a normal and incorporate casino related.

    As for the number of guests, both of you should be able to have those that are important to you in attendance so it sounds like his friends are important to him so I don't think it would be fair of you to tell him they can't attend.

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  • AJ
    Super October 2022
    AJ ·
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    Tell him that the casino is not a proper place for a wedding. It doesn't even look like that spot has a place to host a wedding - he can have his bachelor party there.

    As for inviting everyone from his club or whatever it is, tell him the more people he invites the more money its going to cost as you pay per person - maybe he doesn't understand that. Most men are wedding stupid and don't understand what goes into planning it. You have to sit down and have a discussion with him to help him understand.

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  • Chloe
    Devoted February 2022
    Chloe ·
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    Maybe you could agree to have a casino theme at your wedding? You know, hire a nice venue, but with some roulette tables, where you could play without having to bet real money. Maybe have a darts competition to top it up.
    Would be my dream wedding, lol, but FH wants "something more traditional".
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    I think an upscale casino could be fun! But I get where you’re coming from and how to you it may feel opposite of your dream wedding. You BOTH need to agree. You need to have that conversation with him. And then let him know you want him to be happy to and ask him WHY he wanted the wedding there. If he really wants a casino venue, can you agree on a more upscale one to hold the reception but choose a venue you want more for the ceremony ( church/temple, park, courthouse, etc)?
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  • Jm Sunshine
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    Maybe his bachelor party should be at the casino of his dreams then he can get it out of his system!🤷
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    Devoted April 2023
    Peyton ·
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    Is he being serious? I would ask him if he would consider having his bachelor party at the casino. Then, you both agree on a more traditional wedding venue. I wouldn’t want to get married in a casino. It would make me feel cheap and degraded. Good luck to you. I hope your fiancé is understanding.

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  • Tara
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    Ok I looked up that casino and eww is all I can say. That's definitely no somewhere I'd want to get married either. My first thought and initial reaction, do they even allow weddings? I'd look into that.. and if they do, where exactly? My advice in this situation, he may have been talking to friends and joking around and they decided it'd be so funny and so cool to have a wedding at this casino. Have an open, frank, honest discussion with him about how you feel and how that place does NOT fit your vision. Tell him it's not somewhere you want to get married, you take the wedding seriously and this place doesn't seem like somewhere you'd want to start your married life off at. Just be honest to him and let him know how important it is you choose somewhere else!!! Somewhere that encompasses both of you and who you are as a couple.

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  • Aileen
    Just Said Yes May 2022
    Aileen ·
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    Casino wedding is weird. As for me, it's just a game and a test for your luck, and you can do that at home. Let your fiance read an article by this link , maybe he'll agree to leave gambling online and out of real life.

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  • Candace
    Super March 2022
    Candace ·
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    If he changed his mind before about the size of the wedding, maybe his mind can be changed again! Tell him this is about compromise. Make a list of at least 5 other venues that you both agree to visit. Just to have options! Then you can crunch the numbers, talk about what's important to you, and make a compromise. If he can at least go visit other places and see what goes into wedding planning, maybe he will come around.
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