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Morgan
Just Said Yes May 2024

Having Some Wedding Planning Regrets

Morgan, on April 23, 2024 at 12:48 PM Posted in Planning 0 5
Hello!
I decided to plan our entire wedding without a wedding planner. My parents gave us a budget for the wedding, which originally cut out some of the nicer venues I had in mind. So, we went forward with a venue that does not have food, floral, planning, or rental services. Looking back, I now realize either I needed a planner or an all inclusive venue. At 3-4 months out, my parents felt our wedding needed entertainment which added $3k to our spending, going over budget. Because my parents are paying…. They can do whatever. However, they then revealed that the budget is max $10k over what they told us the budget originally. This means we could have chosen a little more expensive venue that was all inclusive… cutting almost nothing we wanted. The venue we could have had is a dream venue! So, I’m frustrated and now regretting everything about wedding planning… Ik it’s kind my parents are paying & the day of is only ab us getting married. But I’ve put so much chaotic work into wedding planning to find out it could have been easier & more of a dream?! I’m frustrated…
Any advice? How do I look forward to this after feeling this way?

5 Comments

Latest activity by Jamillia, on April 25, 2024 at 10:34 AM
  • Jacks
    Rockstar November 2054
    Jacks Online ·
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    This is the inevitable issue when someone else is paying for your wedding. Your story is opposite of what we usually hear, where funding gets pulled at the last minute. I guess I would focus on being grateful for what's been offered to you and proud of how much you've done so far!

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  • LM
    Super December 2022
    LM ·
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    Comparison is the thief of joy even when it's all in your head. Don't go down the rabbit hole of it would've been better, easier, prettier, if we had more money. Wedding planning is never easy and it's not your money. Feel proud you and your partner were able to plan this much in your own way.

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    CM ·
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    I can understand why that’s frustrating. While it sounds as if your parents left venue and vendor decisions up to you, you would have made other choices if you had complete information up front. I get it. Unfortunately, you are dealing with your parents’ money and they may see things or have priorities that differ from yours.


    I agree it’s much easier to forgo a planner when dealing with a venue that includes a caterer and a coordinator. Yours sounds more like a blank slate situation. Those are very often more expensive in the end, not less, especially if you’re looking to hire vendors and not DIY everything. That said, I’m sure it will all work out in the end. It’s the people and the love surounding it that make a wedding. Move forward, don’t look back.
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  • V
    Rockstar July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    Honestly I would have offered to pay the difference if I wanted something over the budget your parents set. This way you could have still gotten the wedding wanted.
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  • Jamillia
    June 2024
    Jamillia ·
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    Just look forward to what you already planned, it's your day and what every you have planned will be beautiful. Change your mind set toward making what you have put together to be that dream day.
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