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Jai
VIP May 2020

Having a hard time

Jai, on April 20, 2020 at 5:58 PM Posted in New Jersey Planning 0 4
Unfortunately in NJ, there is no end to this lockdown. My FH and I know an officiant who can marry us in her backyard (her backyard is a huge garden and she runs a wedding business and it looks really nice) with up to 10 people max in attendance (including her). Obviously, family such as my parents, his parents and his cousin will be there. Along with us and our photographer, and officiant. That is 8 people. We only have room for 2 more people to see us get married, and have my MOH, two bridesmaids, his best man, and his three groomsmen. Regardless, there will be people in the wedding party who cant be there (we are choosing the weekend of the 16th, either that Saturday or Sunday may 16/17). Its disappointing to tell people and hope they understand that "hey you can be there for the reception, but not the ceremony since we are limited on people ".my FH feels awkward and uncomfortable with the idea of all of our wedding party not being there, but I'm under the impression that it's out of our control and we need to make the best of it. I'm just venting and need to know how I can make the others feel included, and not like they are left out?

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Latest activity by Jai, on April 20, 2020 at 6:39 PM
  • Courtney
    Dedicated July 2021
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    I would include the MOH and BM and be done with it. Everyone will understand. Okay most people will understand 😉
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  • Jai
    VIP May 2020
    Jai ·
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    Okay, that is a good idea. I hope everyone else does! It sucks because they all bought their suits & dresses.
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  • Kari
    Master May 2020
    Kari ·
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    OMG, go for it girl. If you have two spots left, include your MOH and his Best Man. It sounds like it won't be the wedding you planned but can still be beautiful! The situation in New Jersey is bad, take advantage of having a beautiful spot and being able to include those closest to you, and marry the man of your dreams!

    We are in NH but I grew up in NJ, and my mom and MOH along with a few other VIP guests are there. I'm worried that even if the situation is a little better up here, we won't be able to have some of the people I love most there. It sounds like you have the most important people covered and you'll have a photographer and a beautiful setting (so you'll still be able to share your day with others after). Other people will understand, and if they don't, it doesn't matter, its not their wedding, its yours!

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  • Jai
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    Jai ·
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    Aww thanks for the inspiration! You two ladies are right. I will make it so the best man and MOH are there
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