Have you experienced jealousy since you are getting married?

The day came for them to purchase dresses and she forgets her wallet at home. The place said she could call over the phone and make the payment for the dress. I haven't asked her if she called to make the payment. I feel she is grown and if she really wants to be in the wedding she would call and let me know when she purchase the dress. I am at a point if she didn't purchase it I am going to tell her that I think she should be a guest at the wedding instead.

Unfortunately weddings bring out true colors in people, sorry your going through this. Learn from it and know who really cares from this point on that's what I've done along with my FH... Btw you have a new bff your soon to be husband

I had something similar happen only my now ex BFF, who I had been by her side through the death of her father a year before being one of our only friends to fly out to be with her I did all this without even thinking about it cuz to me thats what friends do for one another. But she was extremely jealous of my relationship and when my FH and i got engaged that got even worse. She went so far as to tell my ex who I have a son with and was going through a custody battle with lies and things were none of his business about my life to twist to make me look bad in court when I had been the sole provider and caretaker of my son and he had been absent for over a year at that point. Needless to say I politely excused her from being part of my wedding part and we no longer talk and I didn't even invite her to the wedding. I figure at this point in my life I want people who are truly happy for me and want the best for me and my FH and my child and not those who are fake and want to bring you down.

I agree with Butterfly, its sad but true.

But you are right If she doesn't get a dress, she can be a guest.

Not the stress you need, sorry its happening to you! Keep your head up and focus on other things you need to do. If it keeps bothering you, ask her if she paid. Sit her down and talk about everything. You will find out whats going on.

Sadly it happened with my best friend. She's ten years older, single and has never had a serious relationship. I asked her to be a BM and she declined because she was moving back from

Across the country. I absolutely understood and asked her to be my DOC. She came to the wedding, was amazing, sat at the head table, etc. She stuck around for a couple weeks after the wedding and I haven't heard much from her since. Just a text every now and then. I think my wedding re-enforced her insecurities about her situation. I purposely didn't talk wedding planning, married life, etc and it still back fired.

When I told one of my good friends that we were engaged her response was "oh my gosh I'm so jealous! I wanna be engaged" ... Not a congratulations, not a "OH MY GOSH NO WAY" ... I got "I'm so jealous" ....

Thank you for all of the advice. I just can't believe her actions but I mean better to know now than later. My husband is my bff and I am not complaining. My other BM's have stepped up.

I've been experiencing stupidity at work and I chalk it up to jealousy.

It may not be jealousy. When one of my friend's got engaged, I couldn't get excited about her wedding because I couldn't stand her FH. Anyway, my point is that it might be something else unrelated. You should talk to her about it and make sure there's not something else going on.

I have spoken to her. No one else has ever had a problem with him. None of my other friend and my mother loves him. So I don't know what it can be.

I haven't experienced much jealously from others. I did have a good friend from college that I invited, but once she received her STD she stopped talking to me. Out of obligation I sent the RSVP with the invitation so the balls in her court. We're both the same age (28), but she's been wanting to get married since we were in college. She thought for sure she'd be married or engaged by the time she graduated. That didn't happen (it was how her parents met and her brother and his wife --- in college).

She also still lives at home even though she has a great job. I've told her to move to a bigger city and meet people (before my engagement), but she's happy in her small town, but I know she's jealous that I'm getting married. It sucks because she's a great person.

Happened with me too. Only it was a friend who's been married for 12 years and has 2 kids. Seems weddings just bring it out in people.

I've lost friends. My own family has showed that they are jealous. My BMs (sisters & 2 friends) still have not ordered dresses and my wedding is in July. Some family members still haven't said congratulations or RSVPd. My sister dropped out my wedding a month ago and announced that she had gotten married. Should I continue? LOL

It’s sadly one of those things that happens when you move to different stages in life - you lose friends. It will likely happen if you decide to have children as well.

View Quoted Comment It actually really really hurts when u haven't got anyone, u have no idea what it's like, I have had 2 disappointments & both the guys one a playboy & other only wanted me like a toy.
It's not as if we not happy for our friends it's just like what did we do wrong, when's our turn coming. Or u find your dream guy & just what u ordered & find out he's married, no thanks