Happily Ever After Party(post destination)- requesting advice on gifts

I would take the registry right out of it entirely. Like, just delete the section. Technically by etiquette if your website is serving as the invitation, it's rude to refer at all to gifts on an invitation. I wouldn't have a gift or card table displayed, because that will make people that didn't bring something feel awkward. When people arrive with a gift or card to the home open house, just take it and thank them and put them away in a private area or room. If it's a cocktail style open house that should be easy enough to do.

Don’t include any registry information. If someone does ask, then give the information by word of mouth. Be aware that many people do not give cash gifts or honeymoon/experience gifts, and you will get physical gifts that you may not want and cannot return. It’s impolite to decline those gifts and say in any way that you are not accepting gifts. Graciously accept whatever you get and give prompt physical thank you cards asap.


Agree with Jacks to not have any gift/card table but make sure there is a space available for those who bring gifts with them.

For a post wedding party following an intimate wedding you would not properly register or refer to gifts in any way. I would also lose the section on dress entirely. There's certainly no need to tell people that you'll be in wedding attire. TMI. People are adults who know how to dress for a celebration of marriage, anniversary party etc. as they see fit.

I would lose the gift table. Take any physical gifts and put them in a closet or separate room somewhere.

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This was going to be my exact advice. Don't include anything about gifts. If someone brings something, put it in a safe place away from the party and send them a thank you note after.

I would remove all of that information. You only need to say please join us for an open house reception from 6 - 10.

An open house says to me that there will be no meal.

People don't need to be told how to dress.

I wouldn't set up a gift table either. If someone brings a gift, have someone that can place it in a secure location.

Quick note about timing, if you're not serving a meal, it's best not to plan the event over a meal time. I'd do something like 2 pm or 8 pm.

I agree I d omit any mention of gifts. At the party you can stick any gifts under/next to your table. Congrats!

Depending on how many people you're expecting, if you're dealing with a large group perhaps assign a greeter, like a younger relative, to assist with moving coats *and gifts* to a side room. This allows you two to focus on being hospitable and not on those exchanges.

Because I agree, no gift table seems like the best policy, if you don't want to set that expectation.