Hair Regret- Does it ever stop??

It doesn't sound stupid. Everyone looks back on their wedding day and nickpicks at things they didn't notice at the time and wish they had. Try not to beat yourself up about it. The things I noticed after the fact many others didn't . . . or if they did it wasn't a life shattering deal to them. Just think -- your hair didn't ruin your day. It may not have been ideal, but you were still a gorgeous bride. Try not to focus all of your energy on what went wrong . . . but rather on what went right. Although I know you have taken a second set of pictures, for your original pictures, can you have them edited so your hair looks more like what you wanted?

I don't know about hair regret in particular but like people have said, it is normal to look back on that day and have some regrets. i had some regrets about other things for sure whenever i look back on it but at the end of the day, overall i was happy.

Anyone who says everything about their wedding was absolutely perfect is a most likely a rotten liar. There are always some things that could have happened differently or better. If your hair wasn't to your liking on your wedding day but everything else went well, I'd consider that a big win!

I had two events - a Covid elopement and a wedding celebration with guests a year later. For our elopement, which was on our original wedding date, I had my hair done professionally. It was fine, but I didn't love it. Due to my salon messing up, I had an inexperienced, new stylist do my hair - someone who had never met me before, never touched my hair, and didn't know what my face looked like because I was wearing a mask the whole time. He had trouble getting my hair to hold a curl, ended up using a ton of hairspray so my hair was stiff, and styled in in a way that exposed my ears (not very flattering on me), added volume to the back of my head (I already have a long head), and made it impossible to attach my veil discretely (literally had to pin the comb on top to get it to stay). Immediately after our ceremony I took the veil out for the rest of our pictures because I knew it didn't look good. For our wedding celebration this year I decided I would do my own hair because I can disappoint myself for free. I curled my hair and ended up having a friend help me with the updo part, added in decorative hair pins I designed and made myself, and skipped the veil entirely. I actually much prefer how it came out compared to the look I spent a chunk of money on. Was it my dream hairstyle? Nope, but it was still pretty good!

There will ALWAYS be something that isn't perfect, that you'll kind of kick yourself over, but in the end if you had a joyful wedding and have a happy marriage, that is what is most important. Its difficult not to get really upset over something that was really important to you, that you spent a ton of time, money, and energy on, and that didn't end up perfect. For our wedding celebration I got a second dress (because my husband had already seen my wedding dress when we eloped) and I never got a chance to steam the bottom and so it was wrinkled and creased in all our photos, very obviously so in some. I kind of regret not wearing my ceremony dress the whole night, choosing that dress as my reception dress (it was a silk slip dress with spaghetti straps and I just don't really think skinny straps are very flattering on me) and definitely wish I had at least steamed it. I also wish more of my friends had joined us (very few did), everyone dressed up more than they did, and that some other things were different, but here we are. The bad thing about weddings is you typically only do them once, and there aren't redos, so that's a lot of pressure on one day! The good thing about weddings is you typically only do them once, and once they are done, you can stop stressing about them and move on with your life.

I'll also agree with the previous poster that your profile pic looks beautiful (and I stalked your other photos, which look stunning as well). While I'm sure you picked out photos you liked more to share, I suspect that the ones you don't like as much aren't as bad as you feel they are. Even if you didn't love your hair I definitely do not think it "ruined" your wedding or all of your photos. I would try, as much as possible, to not let your hair ruin your feelings about an otherwise lovely day.

I totally agree with Kari. There will always be things you aren't happy about! On our engagement shoot, the makeup artist asked me if I wanted to line my lower lash line. She'd done my makeup before, and we spoke then about how this tends to make my eyes look smaller, and that I preferred to only line the outer one third, in a soft colour, not dark. Because we'd spoken about it, I didn't think when she asked, and said yes.

Well... the lower lash line was lined in BLACK, the whole way across, and I thought it made me look tired (highlighting the bags under my eyes). But our photographer was arriving soon and I was worried I'd make it worse if I touched it, so I left it as-is.

I also wore a fabric belt with my dress, and in one of my favourite photos (face-wise) it's twisted and runkled up and looks AWFUL. But no one will notice those things unless I point them out. And lots of people liked the makeup, even if I don't think it's the best look on me. So, you just have to let it go, knowing no one else will notice even half as much as you do!

I can't speak to regret since my event hasn't happened yet. But I also may have cyber sleuthed and looked at your other pictures and they look stunning and I can't tell anything is wrong with the hairstyle.

I wore a necklace on my wedding day, 18 years ago. I had originally had a much nicer necklace that was a single strand of Swarovski crystals, but it was stolen about two days before - so I chose another necklace I already had. This was a more statement necklace, much larger/thicker than the one I'd originally selected.

I wish I had simply not worn anything. Whenever I've looked back on my photos, I've been disappointed. I otherwise feel like I was perfection that day - I was in great shape, I had a perfect, sun-kissed tan, my makeup was perfect, my hair was immaculate, my dress fit me like a glove and my veil was positively angelic.

But that damn necklace. It's big and interrupts the line of my collarbones and looks completely out of place with the minimalism of everything else (from my own look to the wedding itself.) I have often humored having the photos professionally retouched to remove it, I hate it that much.

For what it's worth, however, if you ask my husband, I was nothing but perfection that day. In fact, he has said before that I was the most beautiful I had ever been on that day, even after all this time and many, many more days. And he has responded this without any prompting, without having any idea that I have this lingering loathing over that necklace - this isn't him just trying to make me feel better. I'm the only one who feels this way. My husband, my family (even family members who didn't attend and only saw photos), my bridesmaids, and even new friends who have only seen pictures, all think I was breathtaking.

I am telling you this because your feelings are valid, and I know it sucks to feel that way.... but we will always be our own worst critics and we will always find our flaws that no one else sees.