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Maddie, on June 19, 2019 at 9:48 AM Posted in Michigan Planning 0 3
My fiancé would like to invite a lot of his family (that he isn’t as close with)/friends to just the reception, he says this is normal to not be invited to both the ceremony and the reception. I personally have never been invited to just a reception, is it rude to just invite people to the reception and not the ceremony? And how does one go about doing so?

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Latest activity by Clíodhna, on June 20, 2019 at 10:56 AM
  • Laura
    Master October 2019
    Laura ·
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    It is rude. I would be hurt and feel like I wasn't wanted to share in the joy of the ceremony. It's not normal at all. I don't think men get the whole etiquette part of a wedding

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  • Valentina
    Devoted September 2019
    Valentina ·
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    Our family weddings are done this way. Only the bridal party and immediate family attend the ceremony and then everyone the reception. Usually we just put the the time for ceremony and reception. In our culture it’s just common knowledge that only immediate family goes to the ceremony. Now I would probably just send invites as “come celebrate with us...” if your just inviting them to the reception.


    IMO personally I do not like the fact that not everyone attends the ceremony, Since we will be having a smaller guest list then most on my side of the family has ever had, I told my mom that I expect everyone that is invited to the reception also attend the ceremony. Her reply was why would you want to torture your guests keeping them so long. (Catholic ceremony an hour long then a two hour gap for photos and reception starts at 6) I don’t see it that way cuz what’s the point of coming to celebrate what you were not a witness of🤷‍♀️.

    maybe your FH just wants a more intimate ceremony and wants only who he is close to there. I don’t know, but I do know it is done and I have been to many wedding this way, three of which were my sisters. Congrats and best of luck to you!!!🎉
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  • Clíodhna
    WeddingWire Administrator January 2030
    Clíodhna ·
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    Hi there Maddie!

    Welcome to the WeddingWire community Smiley smile

    This wouldn’t be the norm, however, it isn’t totally unheard of - it’s more common in some cultures like in the UK, and your FH says it’s normal in his family. I do hear of some couples who want a small intimate ceremony with just themselves and immediate family, who hold a larger celebration later with a large group of guests, especially if they get married abroad, but this is done on different days, not the same day, so it’s not the same as what your FH is describing

    Since he says this is normal for his family, maybe he could explain it a bit more about why he wants to do things this way and how it is usually arranged. You could explain to him your own concerns, such as the potential for these guests to feel left out or “second best”. Is your ceremony space large enough to include all your guests?

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