Guest count reduced due to Covid

I haven’t done this (our wedding is in December but we don’t yet know if our guest count will be affected).
I would look at the guest list and really try knock off those people who you invited out of courtesy and wouldn’t mind if they weren’t there.
To me the best way to go about it would be to speak to the ‘Un-invitees’ directly and tell them that you’ve been left with no choice but to uninvite a few people due to the restrictions in place and just break it to them. I think so long as you express it in a way that you’re not happy about having to do so, I’m sure they’ll understand.

A lot of people who have had to cut their guest lists due to covid have provided guests the option to zoom or FaceTime in. That way they can still be part of the ceremony. I like what this site had to say about how to go about it.
https://www.onefabday.com/covid-19-how-do-we-downsize-our-guestlist/

We might also have to uninvite a few people, so I had searched online for a template that I could use to let people know. I found a website that has a few good templates for various scenarios (uninviting guests, postponing wedding, still continuing with wedding as planned, etc): https://theeverylastdetail.com/coronavirus-wedding-postponement-email-templates-to-send-to-guests/


Truly, I think most people will be understanding because everyone is aware that COVID is forcing many new, unforeseen restrictions.

I would just be apologetic and sincere. Say that we wish they could come but we couldn't have ever predicted an epidemic. We're really sorry to have to do this, but we are forced to reduce our guest count. People will understand. It's beyond your control.

We tried to make cuts at "clean lines" for example: we chose to only do our wedding party (and their COs) and our immediate family.

For example, if we invited my Dad's sister, we should invite my mom's brother. Choosing one but not the other creates a weird situation.

View Quoted Comment Thank you, this sounds like exactly what we will be doing

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View Quoted Comment We have a December wedding as well and cut our list from 216 to 100....It was extremely stressful but talking to coworkers friends really relieved and help narrow down the list! Good luck!🤞

We have a December wedding as well and cut our list from 216 to 100....It was extremely stressful but talking to coworkers friends really relieved and help narrow down the list! Good luck!🤞

We did the same as Alex. Family and bridal party and kept clean lines, such as no parents friends unfortunately. My dad, mom and FH parents actually made the decision to cut their own friends and told us it was a team-parent decision. Very sweet as they knew we went through so much and wanted to make a simple solution to an already emotional and heavy decision for us.

13/5/20- my fiancé and I cut our number by a bit over 100 to our goal of 90 42 for me and 56 for him....he couldn’t do 90 refused and ended up adding 9 people he did not consider that if like to add and remove fairly...I’m so frustrated he now has added 4 more and I’m fed up. I am payi Nd but am trying to be fair - he cannot agree to make a cut to allow me one..and I have financially supported the wedding which I certainly want to- but as 36 y reAt old adults I starting to feel disregarded and not a priority - as of right now still he refuses to remove one child under 5 or friends wife to give me a spot for a second friend!!!! The wedding is mostly family all of his 2nd and 3rd cousins under the age of 12 and h won’t budge with this either. I have been a mess crying and angry and now I’m just so disappointed and unsure how to process this - I think I may need to consider this before making any further plans ....PLEASE ACCEPT MY APOLOGIES FOR VENTING AND COMPLAINING ON THIS SITE BUT WHO BETTER TO GIVE ME A WORD OF ADIVE FROM FELLOW covid brides 👰