Gift for my dj

Is he a professional DJ?

Cash for half the deposit. Then more cash on the day of your wedding to pay him for his services.

View Quoted Comment No just a friend that has experience with events and sound boards etc

There was a thread just today (and one yesterday, and probably 10 more this week) about a "friend" who was going to help with something for a wedding. Then something more important came up, and the posters are scrambling, a month, week, or day before their wedding. A DJ is a pretty important piece of the party. I wouldn't leave it to the chance of friendors. Hire a professional, please.

Also, you don't need to ask your BP until 6 months before your wedding. It's WAY to early.

View Quoted Comment Agreed and if you choose to use him as a friend-or get a contract. Seriously.

I wouldn't get him a gift. I'd give him some cash for his services. Even if it's only a small tip.

First of all if you wish to "hire" him to be the DJ then do so but please do not ask him to be in your wedding by being the DJ. That is not cool....I am usually not one to say something isn't cool or should be done one way or another but personally I find it rude to assume a friend would want to be the DJ let alone put him on the spot, in front of everyone, in asking him to do so. A bridesmaid/groomsmen portion is friends/family that are special to you. A DJ is a professional service that you pay for. You do not ask some one to work for free on your wedding.

Oh dear. If he’s not a pro and hasn’t OFFERED his services, I wouldn’t do this to him. It’s a big responsibility that he may not even want (likely even, dare I say...although if you ask him he may feel pressured to say yes). If he’s one of your BEST FRIENDS he probably want to be tearing it up on the dance floor with the rest of you during the event. And presumably wants to be drinking (unless he doesn’t partake). Please consider that as a vendor, he probably won’t get to enjoy your wedding.

and if you ARE insistent, the correct “gift” is in fact cash

Oh no wait, you’re asking him to do this job at a large group brunch with the rest of your friends you’re asking to be in your “party” ??? Noooo, this will make him feel either a. Bad about not getting a bridal party role, b. Obligated to say yes in the festive environment without really having the chance to think it over, or C. BOTH

To clarify with everybody,

He has already offered to be my DJ/do my music and is very enthusiastic and excited about it. He has DJed other close friends weddings and it's something that he really enjoys. He was the event support manager at the college we went to. We are very close friends and I know he won't ask for any money but I fully plan on paying him. He is also close with my bridesmaids, which is why I wanted him to be a part of my brunch.

Asking him is more of an official formality for the fun of it, since he's already offered.

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I still think cash would be the best "gift" for a professional offering their services.

View Quoted Comment Ha! I just breathed a sigh of relief.

still I feel that cash is king. If you don’t want to give dollar bills, I’d say go gift cards. Visa/Amex , favorite store, favorite restaurant, favorite coffee shop etc

You need to pay him. And if he’s a close friend he should be enjoying the wedding not working.