My fiance's mother died when he was 11. He was the only child from that marriage. His father remarried when he was 16. His father has three children from that marriage. Twin daughters who are 16 and son who is 11. The father got divorced from the mom of those kids three years ago and now has a fiancee.
FI's father has contributed money to our wedding expenses more than my parents have. My FI and his dad went out to the movies a couple of weeks ago and had lunch afterwards. FI's dad said that he and his kids feel left out of the wedding and he feels like they are basically showing up to the wedding and they feel left out. He also told my FI that he feels that he and his kids are in the "B group" and my side of the family is in the "A group" when it comes to planning.
I post a lot of pics of wedding stuff on Facebook and my parents went with us to venues and my mom is helping design favors and plan my bridal shower. Back in late January we went to a bridal expo to get ideas for the bachelorette, bridal shower, and bought some things. I posted this on Facebook and I think my FI's dad or his sisters may have seen it.
I don't want my FI's dad and his siblings to feel bad and I feel I did screw up by not including them more especially since FI's dad contributed money to our wedding expenses. I 'm open to any advice or ideas on how to include them and make them not feel like second class citizens.