My wedding is right around the corner (11/12/23) and I am having trouble making a decision on my first look with my father. My fiancé did not want to do a first look so I had originally thought about having one with my father instead. This was was back when I first got engaged in April of 2022, since then my relationship with my family has all but disappeared. People weren't lying when they say that wedding planning can really bring out the harsh reality of family and relationships.
Now I am fighting with my original though and need to get an answer together for my vendors and timeline. My father will be walking me down the aisle but I'm not sure about the first look. On one hand I don't want to feel awkward in the moment and look back in my wedding video/ photos and wish it was never there. On the other I don't want to regret it if somehow magically the relationship with my family is repaired years down the line. (My family will really need to make an effort to repair the trauma and damage they have caused me, my fiancé, and his family during this wedding planning process. I'm not sure there is anything they could do to repair what has been done at this point to begin with.)
Any advice from other brides who have experienced trauma and/or bad relationships with family revolving around their wedding?
