First dance when i hate being the center of attention

I was in a similar position in that my husband was really looking forward to it but I was nervous about all the attention. It ended up being perfect. I put my arms around his neck, looked into his eyes and swayed to the music. I noticed ZERO people around us. Afterwards I saw that many people were standing to take pictures but I just didn't notice. I did tell him at the beginning of the song that I was nervous, and he said to just look at him. It was a very sweet moment and I'm glad we did it.

Genevieve--I read the CUTEST idea the other day for first dance ideas when you don't want to be the center of attention! A member suggested having all the married couples come onto the dance floor. Then, about halfway through the song, you have the DJ/Band/MC announce that all couples married less than a day should leave the dance floor (so you actually end up being the first one's to exit). Then they would keep counting back starting at a month, then a year, 5 years, etc. The periods of time are up to the announcer, but it's a really cute way to take the attention off of you and then the couple married the longest gets celebrated as well! Usually someone's grandparents!

Youtube is great for showing you how to do different dances and there are even videos for good dances in your wedding dress. If I were you I would:

1. Pick a short song and/or have your bridal party/guests join you halfway through

2. Watch some videos and decide what type of dance step is easiest that best fits your song. If it's slow, go with the ballroom two-step - very easy. If it's more of a Latin or faster rhythm, I'd suggest salsa. Practice the basic steps awhile then start adding in moves.

3. Choreograph some simple steps in at regular intervals - doesn't need to be the whole song, the rest of the time just do your basic steps and throw in a few kisses for that "aw" factor - but if you know when you're coming up on a spin or dip, it's so much easier and just like your ceremony, you won't feel as awkward because you'll have a "script" to follow.

4. Have fun with it! Anyone can dance if you spend a bit of time to learn. You definitely don't need professional lessons to come up with a short, sweet set of moves for your dance.

I had a ballgown and I didn't even bustle it for the first dance at my wedding planners suggestion which I followed in the spur of the moment. She said it looks great in pictures. If you're just swaying and looking romantically in each other's eyes, it works well. I only adjusted my train once so I could keep swaying in a different direction haha.

That's called an anniversary dance. I've seen it done a few times and it's really sweet.

I agree with the first PP that if you are in the moment with your H, all else will fade away. If you are having a night reception, maybe have the DJ or DOC darken the room around you so you don't see all the guests watching you and just focus on each other.

I'm glad! I'm sure it'll be super memorable and sweet!!!

I've seen couples invite other couples to finish their dance with them, so you could do that after just a little of you 2 dancing? They also have Youtube dance lessons, so you could try that!

We picked a shorter song and cued the attendants and their dates to join us, plus they knew they would be cued to do so! (First wedding, this wedding we had no dance!)

My DH also suffers from anxiety and didn't want to do a first dance initially. We compromised by dancing the first 30 seconds alone and then had the bandleader invite everyone to join us for the rest of the song. It was one of my favorite memories and my DH relaxed and enjoyed himself once everyone got on the dance floor.

YES! Thank you! I couldn't remember the term! I think an anniversary dance is a sweet way to take the attention off of you and honor all the other married couples at your wedding.